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Identity crisis

Michaelcangelo

Hi all, this is my first post but I've been struggling recently.

I've been diagnosed with autism for around 6 months, at age 30, after several years living as self-diagnosed. One of the biggest issues I've had since is a feeling that I have no idea what my identity is or who I am any more. 

I know a lot of this is tied to masking and I've been thinking a lot about how I've changed myself and my interests to manage in certain situations and to make an identity for myself and this has gone back to when I was a teen.

I was just wondering if/how anyone else has managed this, and got through it? It causes me a lot of stress, sadness, and inability to trust myself as I'm not sure I know who I am anymore.

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  • Been feeling exactly the same since June when I was diagnosed. But one thing I've done, each day, that has helped is to slow down.

    By moving slowly, being calm with myself, allowing myself to make mistakes and know where those now come from, is a process of self acceptance.

    It's hard to not fit in, and I always thought when I didn't that it was just the wrong situation, and so I blindly carried on.

    Nowni know I don't fit in (in the the way I always hoped I might one day) has allowed me to say, 'well, fk it. If that's the way it is then, I'm not doing anyone any harm. I try to be kind but sometimes that isn't enough for some people. And I know I'm fine on my own, so what's the worst that can happen? More of the same?'.

    I've realised there are many people out there, NT & ND, the same as me (the same in their struggles), and that it's ok to just be myself, whatever form that takes.

     I hope you get to the same place Slight smile each day is a challenge, but I don't think that's different to the majority of people tbh

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  • Been feeling exactly the same since June when I was diagnosed. But one thing I've done, each day, that has helped is to slow down.

    By moving slowly, being calm with myself, allowing myself to make mistakes and know where those now come from, is a process of self acceptance.

    It's hard to not fit in, and I always thought when I didn't that it was just the wrong situation, and so I blindly carried on.

    Nowni know I don't fit in (in the the way I always hoped I might one day) has allowed me to say, 'well, fk it. If that's the way it is then, I'm not doing anyone any harm. I try to be kind but sometimes that isn't enough for some people. And I know I'm fine on my own, so what's the worst that can happen? More of the same?'.

    I've realised there are many people out there, NT & ND, the same as me (the same in their struggles), and that it's ok to just be myself, whatever form that takes.

     I hope you get to the same place Slight smile each day is a challenge, but I don't think that's different to the majority of people tbh

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