Published on 12, July, 2020
Thanks to Number in another thread (root beer) I've been thinking of the many things I've just 'not got' and done wrong.
Usually the clue that I'm not 'getting it' is the look of wonder on the faces of other people.
I'm suspecting now this may be autism related.
There are countless examples during my life but here a few.
McDonalds: I don't really understand McDonalds and I don't spend time in them without another person.
My mum used to like them so I'd take her there for lunch sometimes.
One of the 1st times she asked me to collect a menu for her and some cutlery.
I couldn't understand why these weren't on the table.
So, I went to the counter and asked for these things.
After this initial trauma, I then had the trauma of trying to understand what you are supposed to eat off of and with.
Doh.
McDonalds is a particular thing with me I think.
I was with my autistic friend on our way back from visiting his mother and we went to a McD.
He asked me to get him a 'root beer'.
So, I asked for such at the counter only to be asked what that is.
I said 'I don't know' so no root beer was presented to my friend.
Another prime example is going to a spa and swimming baths in a hotel.
I'm not a swimmer or a spa goer.
So, the 1st thing I did was put my make-up on before going there.
Then, I couldn't understand how the lockers worked and had to get assistance.
Then, I eventually found the toilets but couldn't find my way back to the swimming pool so I walked through reception soaking wet in my swimming costume.
I was also in a church once when a service began and loads of people sat around me.
I had gone in there because I was in a strange city and cold and was using the church as a refuge.
I thought I could just sit there whilst the service took place.
I hadn't anticipated communion and although I'm not a Catholic or a church goer, and although I didn't understand what I was doing, I felt obliged to follow everyone up and take communion.
There are so many examples I won't continue.
Is it just me or are there other people here who just don't 'get it?'.
I must have been on this board for around a fortnight now and I *still* can't work out how to completely stop notifications (like this: (2), for example) appearing at the top of the page. I can press the 'Turn off notifications' button, but even that fails to stop them & it apprently switches back on again by itself. It's driving me sane. I get stressed by the panic I feel about possibly failing to respond to replies in threads - especially if someone's waiting on a respinse from me - or by failing to even find the relevant threads. I must be doing something wrong; either that or it's a fault. Hellllppppp...
PS I've tried all the options on the proper Notifications page in the Profile section.
The turn on / turn off notifications elongated button is a toggle switch.
If you click on it when it say "turn off notifications" - it will turn them on, and vise verser. If you don't want to see notifications, this button should always read "turn on notifications."
I don't know if that helps?
Hello.
I virtually always find that it almost immeditely reverts to Notifications being on again, after I've switched them off via the button. Granted it's silly to feel stressed by such a trivial thing but I worry about seeming rude by (apparently) not replying. It's like a mad Whac-A-Mole experience for me.
Plenty of times, even though there's generally only one thing in my pocket (a Visa card). I hadn't given this any thought until you asked, mate. Like when Sparkly kindly alerted me to some compulsive behaviour of mine recently, sometimes it takes someone else to point things out to me. Thank you.
PS Thanks also to Number and Triker.
Number said:You clearly don't have a sufficiency of OCD trait.
We can verify your theory.
Simon, how many times do you check your pockets when you are leaving home?
If you look in the right hand column, near the top, you can turn notifications off for the thread, you could just do that after each time you post a reply?
I don't really get why you want to turn them off if you are worried about missing a reply though - that's why I leave mine on!
You clearly don't have a sufficiency of OCD trait. Personally, I check that elongated button toggle thing every time before I leave a thread - think of it as "double-checking your flies" whilst you are walking out of the main toilet door !
I am glad I could help you in this instance. I like to feel useful. (INSERT satisfied and happy emoji)
Number said: Also, I think (don't quote me on this) that if you write a response to a thread, the system automatically sets the toggle back so that you DO receive notifications
Ah, that explains everything. Thank you, mate.
So there's no relief then? *cries*
OK - so do you realise that every thread has it's own setting independent setting (in my world) - ie each and every thread that I interact with can either be ON or OFF for notifications? Also, I think (don't quote me on this) that if you write a response to a thread, the system automatically sets the toggle back so that you DO receive notifications. Does any of that help?