Published on 12, July, 2020
Does anyone else really fear confrontational situations? Like when you know you have to confront someone and tell them you are not happy about something and you know it will lead to an arguement. Especially at work but anywhere really
I am always so scared of confrontation. Also when I am in that situation I get tounge tied and lost for words, like everything I want to say goes out of my head and I end up making a mess of what Im saying
Does anyone else relate to this or have any tips of what to do and how to handle these situations? I have to have a confrontation with my consultant at my agency on Monday as I have found out they have been underpaying me for my job and lying to me about how much I should be paid. Its even harder cos he always acts so nice even though I know hes screwing me over. If people act nice, even if they aren't it makes me find confrontation even harder
The thought of confronting somebody cripples me with anxiety.
Same! I always want to make something alright, and diplomacy (or, if honest, fawning/people pleasing, making 'amends' even when I'm the more aggrieved party), so I'll do anything to avoid confrontation. And it's not always healthy.
However, I'd also rather be a open book during conflict resolution, yet there's one current situation where I know I'm expected to play by subtly passive aggressive rules instead. And it's stressing me out a lot. Because it feels fake and two-faced, even though I can see why most people play the 'game' that way. Picking a 'side' but showing that via oblique strategies. I'd rather the 'sides' thing wasn't there at all. Very childlike thinking I know, but why can't we all just be nice to each other?