I've spent this year setting up good food and sleep routines. I have found a daily diet that works for me and for the first time in my life my digestion is stable, I'm not having daily pain, and for the first time since I was a baby I feel comfortable going into some situations with limited toilet availability. I've even managed to gain some weight! I've also stopped fighting my natural sleep schedule and am getting eight hours sleep a night. I'm no longer breaking down sobbing about how tired I am. It's wonderful. I feel like I'm fully alive for the first time in my life.
The problem is that as soon as I start to connect with anyone, they expect me to break these routines. I can literally explain to them about how I eat the same meals every day and how positive an effect it's had on me, and how I sleep 8pm-4am, and almost immediately they're like, "awesome... hey do you want to come around for dinner on Saturday? Starts at 8pm, I'm making chili." Then when I say no, I can't eat that and I'm asleep then, they just repeat the same kind of invitation ad nauseum for months afterwards. The more I go into explanations, the more they start pathologizing me and suggesting medications etc, usually things I've already tried unsuccessfully.
Do they just expect me to compromise? I'm reluctant to do that because of how physically and mentally unwell I became from doing so in the past.
