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Told I'm gullible, infantilised and gaslit.

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I have been told I'm gullible for giving homeless people money, but tbh I have a 9k motorcycle so I'm pretty sure I won't miss my spare change which is usually under £10 anyway. I feel gaslit tbh, I'm pretty sure I'm not gullible just that the NT who said this is scary level apathetic to the plight of other people.
But I am frequently made to feel this way as an autist, by being subject to language intended to make me feel like I'm some helpless child who can't speak up for myself or walk away from a bad situation, but tbh I have walked away from a narcissistic abuser, and I'm not afraid to, abrupt or politely as necessary, tell people to p*ss off.

Also I was homeless myself albeit very briefly, and tbh I consider it more an empathy thing, because once upon a time that very easily could have been me on the street.

Does anyone else experience this kind of infantilisation in adulthood just because we have autism?

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  • I do realise that I can be naive and unworldly but...does anybody else here dislike the kind of charity-giver who pretty much states: "I will give you this £10-note provided you swear to only spend it on what I, in my superior wisdom and moderation, consider best for you"? It's charity as a conceited kind of insult, charity which is fundamentally grudging rather than generous in spirit and deed. Little different to the old-time missionaries who promised a bowl of soup if you agreed to study the religious documents of their own, biased choosing...

  • in reply to Steven

    It’s a complicated one. I’d personally never take that attitude, and can see why drugs are exactly what one might end up needing to make homelessness bearable. But I’m also aware of the dangers of that. So if someone’s a bit preachy but means well I can sort of see that I oughtnt to judge too sceptically. Though there will undoubtedly be the sanctimonious ones too. As ever, it’s what’s in your heart.. 

  • in reply to Shardovan

    Hello,Slight smile mate. Slight smileSlight smile

    The attitude I mentioned just seems to me to be the snobbish version of the soulless people who dislike benefits money being raised: "Don't waste money on them - they'll only spend it on widescreen televisions/cigarettes/booze/drugs/phone or tv subscriptions/a fleet of Ferraris" etc etc. There's an anti-life, grudginess to attitudes like that, I feel.

    EDIT: I've somehow managed to mess up the emoticon function. Doh.

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