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Told I'm gullible, infantilised and gaslit.

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I have been told I'm gullible for giving homeless people money, but tbh I have a 9k motorcycle so I'm pretty sure I won't miss my spare change which is usually under £10 anyway. I feel gaslit tbh, I'm pretty sure I'm not gullible just that the NT who said this is scary level apathetic to the plight of other people.
But I am frequently made to feel this way as an autist, by being subject to language intended to make me feel like I'm some helpless child who can't speak up for myself or walk away from a bad situation, but tbh I have walked away from a narcissistic abuser, and I'm not afraid to, abrupt or politely as necessary, tell people to p*ss off.

Also I was homeless myself albeit very briefly, and tbh I consider it more an empathy thing, because once upon a time that very easily could have been me on the street.

Does anyone else experience this kind of infantilisation in adulthood just because we have autism?

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  • I do feel that to some extent, like my parents were basically stopping me from meeting new people in case thye literally just happened to be predatory homosexual r*pists , and the basis for this was that because i was autistic i was more vulnerable etc.

    As for homeless people. TBH, I would give maybe some spare change if i had any BUT I know my cousin used to give to a "homeless" person for months only to find out they were not homeless or destitute in the slightest. 

    She's NT not ND so it doesn't really make a difference if you're autistic or not, these things can happen to anyone. 

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    I think as an Autist I'm LESS gullible than the N.T's and less likely to make that particular mistake and certainly not for long. 

    I have to stop and wonder, did your cousin, actually stop and take an interest in the person they were giving money to and learn about why they were standing there asking for money, or did they just chuck 'em the cash as what we "based" people call a "virtue signaller" does? I'm genuinely curious, because I'm pretty sure that much talked about thing has not yet happened to me, and certainly not repeatedly.

    MY neighbour is a good old stick, he actively supports the homeless, on a very routine and it appears organised basis as a personal effort and to fill his time. 

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  • in reply to NAS81967

    I think as an Autist I'm LESS gullible than the N.T's and less likely to make that particular mistake and certainly not for long. 

    I have to stop and wonder, did your cousin, actually stop and take an interest in the person they were giving money to and learn about why they were standing there asking for money, or did they just chuck 'em the cash as what we "based" people call a "virtue signaller" does? I'm genuinely curious, because I'm pretty sure that much talked about thing has not yet happened to me, and certainly not repeatedly.

    MY neighbour is a good old stick, he actively supports the homeless, on a very routine and it appears organised basis as a personal effort and to fill his time. 

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