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Told I'm gullible, infantilised and gaslit.

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I have been told I'm gullible for giving homeless people money, but tbh I have a 9k motorcycle so I'm pretty sure I won't miss my spare change which is usually under £10 anyway. I feel gaslit tbh, I'm pretty sure I'm not gullible just that the NT who said this is scary level apathetic to the plight of other people.
But I am frequently made to feel this way as an autist, by being subject to language intended to make me feel like I'm some helpless child who can't speak up for myself or walk away from a bad situation, but tbh I have walked away from a narcissistic abuser, and I'm not afraid to, abrupt or politely as necessary, tell people to p*ss off.

Also I was homeless myself albeit very briefly, and tbh I consider it more an empathy thing, because once upon a time that very easily could have been me on the street.

Does anyone else experience this kind of infantilisation in adulthood just because we have autism?

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  • Absolutley. I am 35 and other adults, even ones younger than me, still treat me like a child. I just want to scream at them that I am a grown up and to treat me like one.

    I also find people seem to think they can con me and pull the wool over my eyes, like they assume just because I am nice and kind that I must be either gullible or a doormat that will just never complain about anything. And then when I do stand up for myself they treat me like a troublemaker.

    I always try and help homeless people if I can, like you I am shocked by the unsympathetic attitude of NTs who seem to act like all homeless people deserve it. I think especially these days when the cost of living is so tough, most people are one or two bits of bad luck away from being homeless. I was nearly homeless myself a couple of times so like you I have alot of empathy with them

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  • Absolutley. I am 35 and other adults, even ones younger than me, still treat me like a child. I just want to scream at them that I am a grown up and to treat me like one.

    I also find people seem to think they can con me and pull the wool over my eyes, like they assume just because I am nice and kind that I must be either gullible or a doormat that will just never complain about anything. And then when I do stand up for myself they treat me like a troublemaker.

    I always try and help homeless people if I can, like you I am shocked by the unsympathetic attitude of NTs who seem to act like all homeless people deserve it. I think especially these days when the cost of living is so tough, most people are one or two bits of bad luck away from being homeless. I was nearly homeless myself a couple of times so like you I have alot of empathy with them

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