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Told I'm gullible, infantilised and gaslit.

🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs

I have been told I'm gullible for giving homeless people money, but tbh I have a 9k motorcycle so I'm pretty sure I won't miss my spare change which is usually under £10 anyway. I feel gaslit tbh, I'm pretty sure I'm not gullible just that the NT who said this is scary level apathetic to the plight of other people.
But I am frequently made to feel this way as an autist, by being subject to language intended to make me feel like I'm some helpless child who can't speak up for myself or walk away from a bad situation, but tbh I have walked away from a narcissistic abuser, and I'm not afraid to, abrupt or politely as necessary, tell people to p*ss off.

Also I was homeless myself albeit very briefly, and tbh I consider it more an empathy thing, because once upon a time that very easily could have been me on the street.

Does anyone else experience this kind of infantilisation in adulthood just because we have autism?

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  • Giving money to he homeless is a natural act of human empathy and compassion. Nothing to feel bad about there. What a strange attitude, NT or not, to say you’re gullible. Unless they subscribe to the conspiracy theory that street ‘beggars’ get into a Ferrari at the end of the night. I think such instances are vanishingly rare and when you see someone on the streets asking for change they really do need it. 

    i suppose they may have meant ‘they’ll only spend it on drink…’ or similar, but who are we to assume or judge? I know that the Big Issue is there to ensure that money is spent productively, but a little extra charity makes you a decent person, not a gullible child. 

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    Shardovan said:
    Unless they subscribe to the conspiracy theory that street β€˜beggars’ get into a Ferrari at the end of the night.

    Unfortunately I think they do believe something like that. I know it is nonsense though as well haha I wish I could have funded such a lifestyle! In a way "we should all be so lucky" as the saying goes but I know  that's not the truth of the situation. :/ In fact even if for a short time. it is very scary being homeless, it doesn't take long to start worrying were your next meal is coming from or if the other people on the other benches in the park wont try to "do things" to you in the night. Especially if you are smaller in stature and autistic. which makes you extra vulnerable.

  • in reply to 🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs

    The last homeless person I encountered was three weeks ago, walking through Belfast trying to find somewhere in the freezing cold, and I couldn't imagine having to stay out in in all night but there was someone huddled in against a doorway. I gave him a pound (the only small change I had on me) and made the most momentary of inadequate and clumsy conversation, but to just tear on past would have felt strange. And (selfishly) like pending bad karma. 

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