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Told I'm gullible, infantilised and gaslit.

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I have been told I'm gullible for giving homeless people money, but tbh I have a 9k motorcycle so I'm pretty sure I won't miss my spare change which is usually under £10 anyway. I feel gaslit tbh, I'm pretty sure I'm not gullible just that the NT who said this is scary level apathetic to the plight of other people.
But I am frequently made to feel this way as an autist, by being subject to language intended to make me feel like I'm some helpless child who can't speak up for myself or walk away from a bad situation, but tbh I have walked away from a narcissistic abuser, and I'm not afraid to, abrupt or politely as necessary, tell people to p*ss off.

Also I was homeless myself albeit very briefly, and tbh I consider it more an empathy thing, because once upon a time that very easily could have been me on the street.

Does anyone else experience this kind of infantilisation in adulthood just because we have autism?

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  • I tend to think if someone on the street has to ask me for money, they are indeed in some way worse off than me.

    Usually they are out of luck, as I am "destitute" according to the goverment metrics, but if I am flush I try to give them enough to make a real difference to their day, where they have some left over even after buying a ten quid deal and some food. 

    It has been a long time since I was able to do that...

    If I have time I also ask for their story. One guy who was advising me that if I was ever out on the street how the buttresses found on church walls offered protection against the elements, was a railway station master in his time and seemed like a decent bloke, just economically "fubar"... 

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  • I tend to think if someone on the street has to ask me for money, they are indeed in some way worse off than me.

    Usually they are out of luck, as I am "destitute" according to the goverment metrics, but if I am flush I try to give them enough to make a real difference to their day, where they have some left over even after buying a ten quid deal and some food. 

    It has been a long time since I was able to do that...

    If I have time I also ask for their story. One guy who was advising me that if I was ever out on the street how the buttresses found on church walls offered protection against the elements, was a railway station master in his time and seemed like a decent bloke, just economically "fubar"... 

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