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Told I'm gullible, infantilised and gaslit.

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I have been told I'm gullible for giving homeless people money, but tbh I have a 9k motorcycle so I'm pretty sure I won't miss my spare change which is usually under £10 anyway. I feel gaslit tbh, I'm pretty sure I'm not gullible just that the NT who said this is scary level apathetic to the plight of other people.
But I am frequently made to feel this way as an autist, by being subject to language intended to make me feel like I'm some helpless child who can't speak up for myself or walk away from a bad situation, but tbh I have walked away from a narcissistic abuser, and I'm not afraid to, abrupt or politely as necessary, tell people to p*ss off.

Also I was homeless myself albeit very briefly, and tbh I consider it more an empathy thing, because once upon a time that very easily could have been me on the street.

Does anyone else experience this kind of infantilisation in adulthood just because we have autism?

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  • in reply to Desmond79

    Hi Desmond. I would never want to invalidate someone's experience but I hope you don't mind me asking is there anything in particular what caused you to conclude the person in question was a panhandler in a dishonest sense of the word? Particularly that led you to be distrusting of their own money-management? I know people are individuals and not necessarily representative as a group, but I am interested in hearing about your particular experience with the individual in question regardless as I'm very sorry to hear you have been left with an experience that appears to have left you distrustful. And I hope it is not insensitive to ask if you enquire (or will in future enquire) as to food tolerances before you give homeless people food, as often no matter how grateful people are of another's kindness that generosity can be misguided, as if the homeless person has for example a dairy allergy, they may appreciate the sentiment of you buying them a cheese sandwich but will be unable to eat it as it would cause them potentially greater health issues in the long run. I realise it sounds trendy to a lot of people but I implore you to take it in the good faith it is meant if you give homeless people food to try and give them as close to allergen free, vegetarian food as possible to cover a wide variety of medical dietary restriction bases. I have found a humous and dairy free butter variety to be the best for example.