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Told I'm gullible, infantilised and gaslit.

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I have been told I'm gullible for giving homeless people money, but tbh I have a 9k motorcycle so I'm pretty sure I won't miss my spare change which is usually under £10 anyway. I feel gaslit tbh, I'm pretty sure I'm not gullible just that the NT who said this is scary level apathetic to the plight of other people.
But I am frequently made to feel this way as an autist, by being subject to language intended to make me feel like I'm some helpless child who can't speak up for myself or walk away from a bad situation, but tbh I have walked away from a narcissistic abuser, and I'm not afraid to, abrupt or politely as necessary, tell people to p*ss off.

Also I was homeless myself albeit very briefly, and tbh I consider it more an empathy thing, because once upon a time that very easily could have been me on the street.

Does anyone else experience this kind of infantilisation in adulthood just because we have autism?

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  • Giving money to he homeless is a natural act of human empathy and compassion. Nothing to feel bad about there. What a strange attitude, NT or not, to say you’re gullible. Unless they subscribe to the conspiracy theory that street ‘beggars’ get into a Ferrari at the end of the night. I think such instances are vanishingly rare and when you see someone on the streets asking for change they really do need it. 

    i suppose they may have meant ‘they’ll only spend it on drink…’ or similar, but who are we to assume or judge? I know that the Big Issue is there to ensure that money is spent productively, but a little extra charity makes you a decent person, not a gullible child. 

  • in reply to Shardovan

    Sorry to hear you yourself were homeless. Doubly shocking then that someone who knows that (?) would dare to pronounce on it. 

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  • in reply to Shardovan

     Yh true tbh I dunno I like to give people the benefit of the doubt but I think the person in question has "subcribed" to the idea that all homeless people are drug addicts, but I know that's not the case personally because even at the height of my own substance abuse I would prioritise food over alcohol on a tight budget. Also I was homeless during the last labour gov, I was even on the dole and derided as a "scrounger" during that time despite being desperate to improve my situatioun as to not rely on government assistance. And I know it has only got more difficult financially since then. I would love to think that they had genuine concern for me but tbh I worry that they have bought into the propaganda that people struggling in the working class are taking money from the pockets of other decent working class folk via taxes but tbh I know it is actually the rich lining their own pockets at all our expenses and pitting us against eachother lest we realise and evoke a meaningful revolution of sorts. Not to sound like some barmy marxist but yh, I'm pretty sure the rich are screwing us over and it's not a conspiracy theory at this point.