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Turning emotions on/off

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I have heard recently that people with Asperger’s have the ability to turn emotions on and off in a sense my whole life I have been miserable not being able to regulate my emotions and I feel the reason I never was able to develop this skill was because I was always told that I need to find a way to deal with it and not react 

if anyone could help me to be able to teach my self this skill to do it at will to shutdown in a way to help with my emotional regulation and impulse reactions that would be the best thing anyone could give me I have been struggling with my Asperger’s for so long and have only been able to do it accidentally once it was the biggest help but I would like the ability to know how to do it when ever I need to make going through life easier 

any help or advice on how to teach myself this would go further than you would know 

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  • I think that's one of those 'too much or too little of...' things (viewed through an NT prism) that autistic people have a number of. In my case, I'm more in your camp - I feel things very intensely and for a long time. I don't get over hurt or pain easily, and it continue to flare up in cycles even when a more unrelenting phase eases off out of exhaustion. As difficult as that dysregulation/intensity is, I'm not sure I'd want the ability to switch it off at will. I'm not sure who I'd be if I could just make meaningless in one moment something intensely meaningful not long before, and keep it that way. In some ways it sounds like a relief, in another way horrific. Sorry not to be of any help here as I think aloud. But maybe it helps to know you're not alone in being as you are?

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  • I think that's one of those 'too much or too little of...' things (viewed through an NT prism) that autistic people have a number of. In my case, I'm more in your camp - I feel things very intensely and for a long time. I don't get over hurt or pain easily, and it continue to flare up in cycles even when a more unrelenting phase eases off out of exhaustion. As difficult as that dysregulation/intensity is, I'm not sure I'd want the ability to switch it off at will. I'm not sure who I'd be if I could just make meaningless in one moment something intensely meaningful not long before, and keep it that way. In some ways it sounds like a relief, in another way horrific. Sorry not to be of any help here as I think aloud. But maybe it helps to know you're not alone in being as you are?

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