Established People Who Leave this Place

Some people seem to have remained in this place for many years and still pop-up in discussions from time to time. I would expect that to be the rule for these ‘elders’ of our community but I note that they are definitely the exceptions.

The vast majority of established contributors (by which I mean those with points in the tens-of-thousands) seem to ultimately disappear without a trace.

What happens to these people? Do they find it better to be away from this place when they have been thick within it for “too” long? Does the comfort and connection available here become toxic to personal growth? Does boredom creep in? Do they find it swallows too much of their time?

The optimistic side of me likes to think that they derived such tremendous advice, support, love and connection from this place that they transcended their wish to talk with others and have stormed the bastion of their NT environments, conquered all their demons and now live happily authentic and content autistic lives.

.....but I’d expect them to send a friendly postcard back to us 'young-uns' from time to time, with some encouragement that we can ultimately attain the same?

Does this unsolvable question bother anyone else out there?  Is "Plastic" still out there somewhere watching over this forum?!

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  • Plastic sadly passed away, as did Remora. They are the only two I know have sadly passed. 

    Others I guess move on or life gets busy and they forget us - maybe one day that'll be us, too busy to be here?

    I hope they're ok and some come back. Would be great to see some older members back again :) 

  • maybe one day that'll be us, too busy to be here?

    OK, so this poses a question - if that were to happen to you, would you not still retain your "Luna" here.......disappear for ages.....and then pop back up when you had a spare few minutes to say hi or wanted to see how the place was / who was still around?   I'm very surprised that random "interventions" from folk who previously used to be very active here DON't happen.  I'm curious as to why not.

  • Since I joined last year, there have been occasions when I've been fairly active, interspersed with periods of zero activity. Right now, I find it hard to imagine that I might ever find myself wanting to permanently leave, particularly because there are members I feel I have established a rapport with... Members who have provided me with incredible kindness and support when I have really needed it. If my life was to ever become incredibly busy, I think I would still feel a need to pop my head in every once in a while to touch base with what was going on, how people were, etc.

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  • Since I joined last year, there have been occasions when I've been fairly active, interspersed with periods of zero activity. Right now, I find it hard to imagine that I might ever find myself wanting to permanently leave, particularly because there are members I feel I have established a rapport with... Members who have provided me with incredible kindness and support when I have really needed it. If my life was to ever become incredibly busy, I think I would still feel a need to pop my head in every once in a while to touch base with what was going on, how people were, etc.

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