My neighbour is antisocial and has a criminal record, I am scared of him and my housing association gave me a rape alarm for when I am in the close in case he comes near me. He has been threatening to me and I have complained to housing and to police. other people in the close have had to phone the police to him a lot.
There is a lady who lives on my floor, she must be around 30 years old, and he was knocking on her door a lot today and he seems to have locked him self out. he calls her "sweetheart" he has his own girlfriend. he was battering about the close and causing choas. When she opened the door to him it looked like he wanted into her house several times as he was at her door a lot. so I opened my door just as he was going down the stairs a little bit (he came back up again) and warned her that he could be dangerous and that I was issued a rape alarm as she is vulnerable too, if it were me I would want warned. Now I feel so upset that I should have kept my mouth shut?
She told me to "mind your own business" so I said "okay" and shut my door. I am in tears, and have had a panic attack.
I was warning her to keep her safe. As I know that these people pretend to be friends and then they are at your door day and night.
a few years ago there was a fire on one of the floors and I phoned the fire services and got everyone out, she was one of the people I saved. And yet she snapped at me today. She could have been nicer and have said "thanks "my name*, but I am okay thank you, I am friends with him" instead of getting horrible at me.
I love my wee flat and now think I will have to save up to move, which means more antisocial people will get my flat.
It will cost a fortune to move.
I am in tears at what she said, I was only trying to help her.
If the situation was reversed and someone went to warn me about a man, I would say "thank you" if I was not caring etc I would say " thank you I am okay, but thanks for looking out for me, but we are friends"
But she really upset me. I feel shaky and will never speak to her ever again.
Did I do the right thing warning her?
The housing told me he was a criminal, and they looked him up and sent me a rape alarm as a result!!!
I am also worried about going past her in the close in the future as it will be awkward, do I just turn my back to her or walk past her without saying anything. and not look at her? I am a friendly shy person and like to say hi to people , but will have to ignore her now.
I usually keep myself to myself, but I feared that he would go into her house hurt her or just wreck her home or something. I was only trying to help.
feel so shaken.