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thank you I needed to hear that. It had me thinking it was my fault. thanks 

sorry to hear that. 

so sorry to read that you went through all that. 

these people are evil, wolves in sheep's clothing 

Those are truly awful things to say.  I'm sorry that you had to go through that and I understand how it can affect you.

Content warning: sexual abuse and religion...

When I was 18 I was targeted, manipulated and abused by someone from my church.  I kept saying no, but he kept pushing me further and doing things with my body without my consent.  In the end I had the strength to break up with him, but then he called my mother asking for help, and she brought him back into the house and kept a friendship going with him which enabled him to do it all over again.  

When I went to someone in my church for help and support, all I got was an exorcism.

My little sister called me a wh*re because I had holes in my tights and it completely broke me.

I came to terms with the act itself a long time ago, but I'm still trying to deal with the sense of betrayal from the people who were supposed to care for me and protect me.

But we have such strength and resilience to have survived that trauma, and we can't let it define the rest of our lives.  It can become one small piece in the mosaic of who we are.  

You do matter.  You are as much a part of this world as anyone else, even when the world doesn't see it that way.  Your feelings matter.

I totally agree with what Billy said.  I know it is impossible but try not to dwell on the negative experiences you have been subjected to.

happens when yelling and anger go too far or when important adults constantly criticize, threaten, or talk down to kids or teens until their self-esteem is damaged and they feel really bad about themselves. KanTime Medicare Login Page
Emotional abuse can hurt and cause damage just as physical and sexual abuse do.

Thanks,

Horse sh*t !!!!   I'm sorry for my language but you do not deserve the treatment you got.

I hope you are safe now.

My mom told me twice so far ''You will end up like your father'', it's the most hurtful thing I can imagine I could hear from her. she was really angry with me on both occassions,  but in my opinion it was not enough to say something so horrible. Still I've never confronted her about it, and I'm trying to avoid confrontations with her all my adult life for many other reasons as well. Now she is 66, and I'd rather spare her that. Especially that I don't need that confrontation, and I don't think it would solve anything, to the contrary it would surely make things worse.

But it hurts. You should put your family on permanent ignore list

I understand. 

the emotional scar never goes away even if it is healed over, the scar is there as a reminder. 

Yes, and no.

I  moved on physically, but mentally I'm still throughother.

so sorry to hear that. It is horrible that someone can be so cruel to another person. 

I hope that you are okay now?

Thank you so much, that is very kind of you to say that. 

I was abused, too.

That is absolutely horrible. I am so sorry you went through that. Just know you are cared for and understood here and we are all here for you 

Thank you, it is just so hurtful, and somehow has hurt me more than the actual abusive man, as family are supposed to care. It is nice to hear from another that it was not my fault. 

You matter, not least because you aren't like them.

I'm sorry you experienced this and that your family didn't believe you. Sadly, survivors of abuse are often disbelieved and blamed by others, including family. Please believe that you DO matter and that what happened was not your fault.