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Wish my family was different

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My dad told the doctor that diagnosed me, that he hasn’t read anything on ASD and he’ll never will. He also thinks that I’m using ASD as a crutch and I have a defeatist attitude. He thinks that I am capable of working a full time job, not just a part time job.  He wants me to have benefits through a full time job. He even told me that he will not help me get disability benefits through the government. He told me that my mom is the one to help me with that. He’s not going to help me. He even shames me for taking care of my health and fitness, which is very strange. Something I never thought he’d do, since I chose to make my health and fitness a top priority. All because of my oldest sister doesn’t want to be healthy at all. And he shames her for her negligence to her health.

My mom thinks I’m capable of working full time as well. She hasn’t said anything about helping me get disability benefits. My dad is 75 and my mom is 70. I’m 39 and reading survival books just in case I don’t get disability benefits. At least I can fall back on the survival skills as a homeless when my parents pass away. It’s more than likely I’m going to become homeless once my parents pass away. Their is no way I’m going to living with either sister. Our relationships are beyond repair I already estranged my oldest sister. When both my parents are gone I’m going to estrange the middle one. In case you’re wondering they both estranged each other way back in 2006.

My middle sister just thinks I’m a high functioning sociopath and is just lazy like my older sister. My older sister is also disabled but she is not on the spectrum and she is even tried to murder our mom. Yet my parents continue to help live on her own. My parents even told me that they will not help me whatsoever if I ever move out. My oldest sister does have disability benefits and my both my parents helped her get them. It seems like my parents don’t care about helping me with my disability. When it comes to getting benefits.

Also I can’t use my right hand because I got a deep cut in it. It has stitches even. My boss at my work said to do my job as if my hand was fully healed. I told my dad about it and he sides with my boss. I don’t have a good relationship with my dad.

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  • IrishinManchesterUK  I am sorry to learn of your very closed- and narrow-minded parents. I too came from a dysfunctional family. The main contributing factor was my dad although not through cruelty of any sort.  He was an Army soldier of WW2. He had a medical discharge owing nervous anxiety created by battle fatigue. It is a recognised fact a large portion of the baby boom generation (my generation) had grandparents affected by WW1. These affected grandparents created children who grew up to also become affected by WW2. They in turn gave birth to my baby boom generation, who in my opinion, a majority of which didn't stand a chance to be raised in a well-adjusted family environment. ASD is a genetically inherited condition however an epigenetic condition can result from traumatic events; (Epigenetics is the study of how your behaviours and environment can cause changes that affect the way your genes work. Unlike genetic changes, epigenetic changes are reversible and do not change your DNA sequence, but they can change how your body reads a DNA sequence.) I had the added irrational behaviour of a mother who could not accept my father's medical condition. This contributed to a great deal of family upset. I only raise this point as a possibility if applicable to your own parents' background. If this be the case, further understanding is required but, in all probability, will not --- in itself --- improve your situation.

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  • IrishinManchesterUK  I am sorry to learn of your very closed- and narrow-minded parents. I too came from a dysfunctional family. The main contributing factor was my dad although not through cruelty of any sort.  He was an Army soldier of WW2. He had a medical discharge owing nervous anxiety created by battle fatigue. It is a recognised fact a large portion of the baby boom generation (my generation) had grandparents affected by WW1. These affected grandparents created children who grew up to also become affected by WW2. They in turn gave birth to my baby boom generation, who in my opinion, a majority of which didn't stand a chance to be raised in a well-adjusted family environment. ASD is a genetically inherited condition however an epigenetic condition can result from traumatic events; (Epigenetics is the study of how your behaviours and environment can cause changes that affect the way your genes work. Unlike genetic changes, epigenetic changes are reversible and do not change your DNA sequence, but they can change how your body reads a DNA sequence.) I had the added irrational behaviour of a mother who could not accept my father's medical condition. This contributed to a great deal of family upset. I only raise this point as a possibility if applicable to your own parents' background. If this be the case, further understanding is required but, in all probability, will not --- in itself --- improve your situation.

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