Does anyone know how to protect there cognitive and physical space to lower stress from others ?
Does anyone know how to protect there cognitive and physical space to lower stress from others ?
susie163 said:[quote]Does anyone know how to protect there cognitive and physical space to lower stress from others ?[/quote]
I spent 40 plus years trying to do this. Avoidance worked to a point but my world got smaller and smaller until I was climbing it's restricting walls. Acceptance has changed my life - acceptance that uncomfortable things happen and they happen to everyone - it is how I react to these things that is important. Simply put, if I get stressed about stressful situations they undermine me, if I accept them then they give me less if not no problems. T'is easier said than done and I "wobble" sometimes but it's helping me to lead a fuller life.
The trouble with that is, that it causes us a lot of stress which we have no control over, it's genetically wired. So the individual needs to balance whether they would rather have that fuller life with a lot of additional stress or to do some hiding away and be calmer.
Also, some people make me angry and I head towards an outburst. Is it better to put myself in those situations and end up with a lot of upset where I can't stop myself saying what's on my mind to people or to segregate myself a bit?
I am on anxiety medication, and ironically, since I have been on it, it has restored a lot of my AS traits that were squashed under social anxiety that I had developed from negative social experiences. So now, I am more inclined to tease mercilessly, speak without holding back, laugh at inappropriate times etc. I am not an anti-social person, but an NT might view me as such and NTs are in the majority.
susie163 said:[quote]Does anyone know how to protect there cognitive and physical space to lower stress from others ?[/quote]
I spent 40 plus years trying to do this. Avoidance worked to a point but my world got smaller and smaller until I was climbing it's restricting walls. Acceptance has changed my life - acceptance that uncomfortable things happen and they happen to everyone - it is how I react to these things that is important. Simply put, if I get stressed about stressful situations they undermine me, if I accept them then they give me less if not no problems. T'is easier said than done and I "wobble" sometimes but it's helping me to lead a fuller life.
The trouble with that is, that it causes us a lot of stress which we have no control over, it's genetically wired. So the individual needs to balance whether they would rather have that fuller life with a lot of additional stress or to do some hiding away and be calmer.
Also, some people make me angry and I head towards an outburst. Is it better to put myself in those situations and end up with a lot of upset where I can't stop myself saying what's on my mind to people or to segregate myself a bit?
I am on anxiety medication, and ironically, since I have been on it, it has restored a lot of my AS traits that were squashed under social anxiety that I had developed from negative social experiences. So now, I am more inclined to tease mercilessly, speak without holding back, laugh at inappropriate times etc. I am not an anti-social person, but an NT might view me as such and NTs are in the majority.
