Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi!
I am very newly diagnosed, but have always hated physical contact, especially with people I'm not emotionally very close to. During COVID, it's been very easy to navigate not hugging people, using COVID-anxiety as a reason. However we're now "out" of that where I am, and we're having our first big christmas, with my partners extended family on Boxing Day.
They're all very loud and touchy-feely, which I've always struggled with. Especially now I have a diagnosis, I'm less inclined to just "suck it up". I shouldn't have to, but I also don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, nor do I want everyone knowing about the ASD. I've already had the "ooh I didn't think you would be autistic".
What do other people do in this situation? It's causing me a lot of anxiety and stress! I've managed to get out of the food portion of the evening but this means going a little later when people have had drinks too...
Help :D
I'm sorry you're feeling this a bit - I would in your situation as well. I hope it'll all be ok and won't get you too distressed.
I don't like hugs at all. I don't really like being touched or close to anybody - it makes me feel very uncomfortable and causes panic attacks. I like my own space and will only hug when I feel comfortable enough.
I'm thinking along the same thoughts as Martin, saying you have a cold coming on will stop you being hugged. No one wants to catch that, especially before Christmas.
Hope it all goes well :)