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Shutdowns - how many is too many?

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I recently self diagnosed as Autistic and have been learning a lot about myself because of it.

One of the parts of it I'm not sure on is the regularity of my shutdowns and if it is normal or too much.

I'll tend to have at a minimum a couple everyday. Usually one when I get in from work and one around bed time. The severity of these can range, most of the time I'll at least want to just be left alone but I can also become non verbal with my sensory sensitivities also heightened, among other things.

I'll have two at a minimum though. Depending on the day I'm having, maybe stress, sensory sensitivities, masking etc. I may also have more.

Is this a normal amount? I'm 30 years old and have only in the last couple of months realised I'm Autistic so I think I've just gotten used to a constant level of stress/dealing with symptoms so not really sure what my normal should feel like!

Any advice or similar stories would be helpful! I'm also still trying to understand a lot of my sensitivities and what I can do to help myself. 

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  • I posted previously then deleted because I thought I was oversharing. 

    It's hard when you've spent a lot of your life a certain way without knowing. For me it was "normal" to feel like this because I didn't know any different. But I now know it doesn't have to be that way and a lot of people (by that I mean allistic) do not get these experiences or have them in a different way and for different reasons. It's true that what is "normal" differs for everyone. But from personal experience, feeling like this most days isn't sustainable and can lead to burnout.

    If this is a recent discovery for you, it'll take time to work out what it all means for you. 

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  • I posted previously then deleted because I thought I was oversharing. 

    It's hard when you've spent a lot of your life a certain way without knowing. For me it was "normal" to feel like this because I didn't know any different. But I now know it doesn't have to be that way and a lot of people (by that I mean allistic) do not get these experiences or have them in a different way and for different reasons. It's true that what is "normal" differs for everyone. But from personal experience, feeling like this most days isn't sustainable and can lead to burnout.

    If this is a recent discovery for you, it'll take time to work out what it all means for you. 

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