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Violence, beliefs, desperate parent

Tired

My son is 19yrs old, ASD, awaiting ADHD assessment and has PDA traits. His is aggressive and violent. Most recently attacking me and needing to be restrained by his father during an initial assessment with the Complex Autism Team. He would have hurt the staff present in the room. This is all because he didn't want to sign the consent form, because he didn't agree with the team sharing any safeguarding issues, should they arise during discussions. Four months we waited for this meeting, now that's another team that won't deal with him. He believes that there is a higher power controlling the government, but when pressed, has no substance to back up or prove these ridiculous theories. He is determined to break rules he believes are wrong, rules that allow us to live in a safe society. I am desperate. We can't go on or he will eventually hurt one of us or worse. I'm sick of him looking at crap on the internet that seems to suck in people with vulnerabilities like his. But I can't stop him accessing it, his PC is his only enjoyment. I don't know what I'm asking, but this is my life with him, one of control and fear, of hiding the bruises he inflicts, and then providing the love and care he needs after one of these episodes. One day I won't be here anymore, be it at his hands or my own or age. I can't see him ever moving on a having a normal life. He seems determined to make things as hard as possible for himself, and we're expected to just suffer it all, as he constantly maintains it's not his fault and there's nothing he can do. Can anyone please offer me any help, advice or hope because I am seriously losing the will to fight or stand up for him anymore. Being Autistic doesn't give anyone the right to behave in the way he does, but he seems to think it does and that he should be allowed to be above the law. 

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  • Tired said:
    He believes that there is a higher power controlling the government

    but there likely is though.... but thats no reason for him to act violent or even attack his parents...

    government is a total sham though, a puppet show... do you honestly believe these people we so called elect and are in power for a tiny space in time really have any direction of the country and where its going? .... the countries direction and plan for it is more long term and is directed over hundreds if not thousands of years and cannot simply be changed or directed or moved by a 4 year term. there is higher powers beyond, this election process we do is to quell the masses and to make us think we have a choice when we dont, a shadow government is most likely behind things to some degree, maybe even the notions of seperate nations are a lie and perhaps humanity is unified under this singular shadow government? who knows.... but in the end even if your aware of this its no excuse to change your life, no matter what you do you cant effect the world or change it, it is beyond us, you can just go about your life and live your own life, you cant do anything about it.... he can still lead a happy safe life and advance and attain wealth although to be honest attaining wealth is a bit hard as the system is infact created to make us all slaves and rebrand the word slave into something more acceptable.

    but anyways your son could perhaps do with a talk to on a level of understanding his concerns and discussing them with him and perhaps exploring all the what ifs and possibilities with him while drilling into him that theres nothing he can do and its honestly better just getting on with his life. this speaking from his level and exploring the topic with him can make him see you as a ally and thus may get rid of the violence as hed see you as a understanding comrade. i suppose in a sense he will feel in that case that you are there for him no matter what. governments and nations shouldnt matter, you as a family are together and there for each other no matter what dodgy stuff the government and its controllers will pull. 

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  • Tired said:
    He believes that there is a higher power controlling the government

    but there likely is though.... but thats no reason for him to act violent or even attack his parents...

    government is a total sham though, a puppet show... do you honestly believe these people we so called elect and are in power for a tiny space in time really have any direction of the country and where its going? .... the countries direction and plan for it is more long term and is directed over hundreds if not thousands of years and cannot simply be changed or directed or moved by a 4 year term. there is higher powers beyond, this election process we do is to quell the masses and to make us think we have a choice when we dont, a shadow government is most likely behind things to some degree, maybe even the notions of seperate nations are a lie and perhaps humanity is unified under this singular shadow government? who knows.... but in the end even if your aware of this its no excuse to change your life, no matter what you do you cant effect the world or change it, it is beyond us, you can just go about your life and live your own life, you cant do anything about it.... he can still lead a happy safe life and advance and attain wealth although to be honest attaining wealth is a bit hard as the system is infact created to make us all slaves and rebrand the word slave into something more acceptable.

    but anyways your son could perhaps do with a talk to on a level of understanding his concerns and discussing them with him and perhaps exploring all the what ifs and possibilities with him while drilling into him that theres nothing he can do and its honestly better just getting on with his life. this speaking from his level and exploring the topic with him can make him see you as a ally and thus may get rid of the violence as hed see you as a understanding comrade. i suppose in a sense he will feel in that case that you are there for him no matter what. governments and nations shouldnt matter, you as a family are together and there for each other no matter what dodgy stuff the government and its controllers will pull. 

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