My son is 19yrs old, ASD, awaiting ADHD assessment and has PDA traits. His is aggressive and violent. Most recently attacking me and needing to be restrained by his father during an initial assessment with the Complex Autism Team. He would have hurt the staff present in the room. This is all because he didn't want to sign the consent form, because he didn't agree with the team sharing any safeguarding issues, should they arise during discussions. Four months we waited for this meeting, now that's another team that won't deal with him. He believes that there is a higher power controlling the government, but when pressed, has no substance to back up or prove these ridiculous theories. He is determined to break rules he believes are wrong, rules that allow us to live in a safe society. I am desperate. We can't go on or he will eventually hurt one of us or worse. I'm sick of him looking at crap on the internet that seems to suck in people with vulnerabilities like his. But I can't stop him accessing it, his PC is his only enjoyment. I don't know what I'm asking, but this is my life with him, one of control and fear, of hiding the bruises he inflicts, and then providing the love and care he needs after one of these episodes. One day I won't be here anymore, be it at his hands or my own or age. I can't see him ever moving on a having a normal life. He seems determined to make things as hard as possible for himself, and we're expected to just suffer it all, as he constantly maintains it's not his fault and there's nothing he can do. Can anyone please offer me any help, advice or hope because I am seriously losing the will to fight or stand up for him anymore. Being Autistic doesn't give anyone the right to behave in the way he does, but he seems to think it does and that he should be allowed to be above the law.
