Friendships

Hello all. I'm Lauren and I'm new here. I strongly suspect that I'm autistic but no-one apart from my sister understands unfortunately.

I'm posting here today as I'd just like some advice!

I have acquired a new friendship group in the form of mothers from my children's school. At the beginning I was happy to meet up for cups of coffee or going on an occasional night out, but they're doing this really regularly now, sometimes 3-4 times a week, as well as seeing each other at the morning and afternoon school run. I'm not comfortable with doing this as I really love to be alone everyday. They're even talking about having group family holidays which makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable.

They don't understand why I'm not interested in doing these things with them? They keep pressing me, insisting they must have done something wrong to me or I'm angry with them for something because I keep making excuses not to see them. 

They say that I'm avoiding them, and in fairness I am avoiding them. It seems that the more they press me on the issue, the more i want to avoid them. I just really dont want to see people everyday. And anyone I ask for advice just doesnt understand! Does anyone here understand please? I do have 4 boys under 8 so I'm burnt out most of the time anyway...

Thank you! 

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  • Hi everyone - just a quick update.

    I continued to avoid them instead of talking to them about the issue and now they're sending me mean messages on facebook messenger and making tiktok videos about it. Bearing in mind they're in their late 20s and early 30s. It's staggering. Obviously I have a confrontation/conflict issue but I certainly wasnt nasty toward them. 

  • That's bullying and I'm surprised with young families they have time to do things like that. Can you block them? They obviously don't have very interesting lives. I'm sorry this is happening to you.

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