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Did anybody find a person to help you understand your parts of Autism?

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Not sure if title explains it properly, but basically got my diagnosis about 3 years ago, and while it helps to explain certain aspects of myself like issues socialising, there are many other parts that I can't help but wonder if they are just parts of me, parts of the Autism, or maybe something else like OCD/ADHD which Autistic people can have elements of / also have. Essentially my diagnosis ended up being more just "ye you have it", and nothing really going into any of the details or me specific things, 

I've tried therapy, on second one so far, but each time I end up talking about specific things that have gone wrong recently, but beyond that am completely incapable of thinking of anything wider reaching to discuss, which is again making me consider just stopping as I'm not sure how much it helps. It doesn't help that my memory is generally terrible, for past events being more a few specific events remembering they did happen but no details, and recent easily forgetting things as soon as I've been told them.

So basically I was hoping for maybe some recommendations on things, either professionals or strategies that have helps other people in a similar situation, as I'm living with somebody who while they also have a diagnosis of Autism don't have these issues are are more extroverted, and is constantly annoyed by my forgetting things and wanting to do things in my own way regardless of if its more efficient, but I don't know if those things are unchangeable Autism things, or changeable non Autism things, or changeable Autism things with specific strategies.

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  • You raise good points in your writing and I identify with much of the frustration you feel.  Trying to unpick how much of my "true self" is pure autistic and which bits are just me being a selfish bas tard, which bits are due to my undoubted OCD tendencies, is there an ADHD drive too....etc.

    I have found this place extremely helpful to me - it has helped confirm my autistic core to myself because some much of what is said on these pages resonate with me in a way that I had NEVER felt before.  It has been an overwhelmingly positive experience that has left me feeling substantially less lonely and stopped me worrying that I am simply mad !

    Simply by being here, the common tropes that affect autistic people are laid bare - yes we are all unique little autistic snowflakes - BUT there is a very intense sense of community of shared experience.  I find this, in itself, massively helpful to me.

    For me at least, being on these pages is more valuable than the multiplicity of efforts to sort myself out in the preceding decade or so.  It has been more enlightening and "true" than I could every have hoped for - and I keep my eyes open for helpful advice and techniques that other people use.  A couple of things that appeared from "left field" from other contributors have been really, really useful to me.

    Knowledge is power........and people in this place have the knowledge - so stick around.

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  • You raise good points in your writing and I identify with much of the frustration you feel.  Trying to unpick how much of my "true self" is pure autistic and which bits are just me being a selfish bas tard, which bits are due to my undoubted OCD tendencies, is there an ADHD drive too....etc.

    I have found this place extremely helpful to me - it has helped confirm my autistic core to myself because some much of what is said on these pages resonate with me in a way that I had NEVER felt before.  It has been an overwhelmingly positive experience that has left me feeling substantially less lonely and stopped me worrying that I am simply mad !

    Simply by being here, the common tropes that affect autistic people are laid bare - yes we are all unique little autistic snowflakes - BUT there is a very intense sense of community of shared experience.  I find this, in itself, massively helpful to me.

    For me at least, being on these pages is more valuable than the multiplicity of efforts to sort myself out in the preceding decade or so.  It has been more enlightening and "true" than I could every have hoped for - and I keep my eyes open for helpful advice and techniques that other people use.  A couple of things that appeared from "left field" from other contributors have been really, really useful to me.

    Knowledge is power........and people in this place have the knowledge - so stick around.

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