Looking for advise my wife an I made the decision a few months ago to sell the family home and downsize. The plan originally was to move about 5 miles to the next village and be mortgage free. I’m 55 and was planning on working another 5 years and then moving to Cornwall. My father died 6 years ago and left me a workshop, I restore classic cars. To be honest I love the work but hate being receptionist, parts organiser, book keeper, secretary and just about all that goes with it. I really don’t like dealing with people. I spoke in a post recently about my dread of Mondays. The business makes no money as I spend too long making sure my work is perfect and undercharge as I have very low self worth. I find people can manipulate my very easily.My wife and I have had the idea of selling the workshop as well as the house and buying a house now in Cornwall with outbuildings that I could convert into self contained holiday lets. Ideally two and not attached to the house. A new start for us and something to try and get me out of burnout, a project to get my teeth into.
I finished the restoration of an MGC last week and took it to an MG specialist to have its windscreen refitted along with its owner. The MG specialist company is one of the top ones in Europe. The company owner started talking to me, he had seen the car I had completed. I then was shown around the different workshops and asked various questions. I thought it was just the usual,’ this is what we do tour,’ I then gave the cars owner a lift home. On the way home he said to me,” do you know the company owner has just offered you a job, they want you to take over all their panel work and welding”. I just replied that they had never said. I now realise it’s my blindspot with neurotypicals. They seem to talk in riddles and not directly enough.
The job is a dream job, the money is excellent,I would have my own workshop and be able to be on my own. My big problem now is what to do, I know if a take the job then I will never move to Cornwall. My wife thinks I should take it for a few months, I know I would then not move. My head is saying take the job, but will it be too stressful. My heart is saying go to Cornwall, The idea of the holiday let’s is that they would be tailored totally for autistic people who have maybe been in burnout or just want some quiet time and space to rest, do art, walk, help with our rescue donkeys or just do their own thing. The houses I’ve seen are detached, have outbuildings and woodland.
sorry for it being a long one.
