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My Step-father does not chat or talk
by doing so he puts me in a state of uneasy and freezing up around him
by his non-verbal communication involvement and gap silence
I don't know what to do or say when I am about him
I end up in a state of anxiety and confusion around him
I can't read his intents or figure out his behaviours
he has always been remote,,, he does not talk,, unless it is nick pick on you negatively. He makes more bodily sounds, like burping, farting, than actual communication, I swear he is a pig living as a man, is he actually human, I have seen dogs with better manners and communication ?
 
My question is ,,, he freaks me out by his non-verbal silence, it freezes me up due to the uneasy caused by his presence. This tension is like a confrontation within me, I can't do anything about because he does not dialogue with me in normal human fashion. How can you read a book which is closed !"
 
IS there a solution ?
except walk away, which I can not do due to the dependancy on my mother.
it is him,, but I AM the one having the over reaction due to my autism.
 
I just hate the control he has over my emotions
by his very presence in the room, he has been scaring me since childhood. He makes me feel helpless, powerless and angry at myself.  
 
Any advice ? ty
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  • This seems to be something that happens a lot, I'm just not clear whether you are saying he is on the spectrum, or his NT behaviour is affecting you being on the spectrum.

    We seem to get some idea on here that NT is normal, but AS isn't the only thing that can mess with your life. Lots of NTs aren't as NT as you think (or even they think).

    Some people just don't have much luck with social interaction and get content being within themselves, - it doesn't need to be AS related.

    There seem to be lots of people especially in later life who stop saying much. This has something to do with marriage where a relationship runs out of spark. I think it is just one of those things.

    It may just be harder to read someone like that if there's insufficient helpful feedback, especially if you are not good at reading feedback because of AS.

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  • This seems to be something that happens a lot, I'm just not clear whether you are saying he is on the spectrum, or his NT behaviour is affecting you being on the spectrum.

    We seem to get some idea on here that NT is normal, but AS isn't the only thing that can mess with your life. Lots of NTs aren't as NT as you think (or even they think).

    Some people just don't have much luck with social interaction and get content being within themselves, - it doesn't need to be AS related.

    There seem to be lots of people especially in later life who stop saying much. This has something to do with marriage where a relationship runs out of spark. I think it is just one of those things.

    It may just be harder to read someone like that if there's insufficient helpful feedback, especially if you are not good at reading feedback because of AS.

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