Lack of daily routine

Do you maybe have ADHD as well as autism? I think I have both. People who do describe the struggle with their autistic side wanting routine and benefiting from it but their ADHD side getting bored with it and refusing to follow it!

I have some routines which do not have a set time but a time of day, like my morning routing doesn't involve a specific waking up time and some steps can take a varying amount of time, but the order is generally followed. I can struggle to move on to the next stage sometimes, especially from the being in bed reading to the getting out of bed to eat part, even if I feel hungry. Autistic inertia!

I can totally relate to flim flamming around! Unless the day has a thing already decided, a lesson or appointment, or the food shop or the weather is good so we shall cycle, I tend to drift or end up just watching telly or being on the computer. It is really hard to make myself do actual things like the car tax or whatever.

I do have a list but am very bad at looking at it! I sometimes forget to look at it and sometimes just don't want to.

I totally resist my husband trying to impose any further routine. Like doing the laundry on Mondays or whatever. Partly because my energy levels fluctuate and cycling is weather dependent - no way am I going to not cycle to do laundry instead! But even if he just wants a decision like shall we watch this thing on telly at half seven. I'm like maybe, but it might be earlier or later. I am so glad we have catchup now and are no longer subject to the tyranny of the TV schedule! I'm not sure if this is ADHD or demand avoidance.

I do wonder whether I should try to impose some kind of further routine of my own choosing, but I am dubious it would work. 

AuTriker said:

I have some routines which do not have a set time but a time of day, like my morning routing doesn't involve a specific waking up time and some steps can take a varying amount of time, but the order is generally followed. I can struggle to move on to the next stage sometimes, especially from the being in bed reading to the getting out of bed to eat part, even if I feel hungry. Autistic inertia!

This! And I don't want to impose micro managing times on my own day. Ive noticed I struggle to get out of bed if it's for work or doing something i dont want to do but when I'm off work I bound out of bed no problems. I understand more now about demands. It was the same as a child. Couldn't get up in the week but up 2 hours earlier at weekends no problem!

Which actually contradicts my first point in that I'm more mobilised when I have external forces that I need to do something. But this doesn't apply to getting up out of bed. Because that's a demand. 

Which actually contradicts my first point in that I'm more mobilised when I have external forces that I need to do something. But this doesn't apply to getting up out of bed. Because that's a demand.