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Lack of daily routine

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Does anyone have difficulty with having a lack of routine? I'm ok when I'm in work or have commitments but otherwise I seem to flim flam around. I notice other people are able to productively relax (eg I'm going to sit and watch a film then I'm going to do a work out) whereas I feel I act more on a whim. I'm getting some help to establish a better routine outside of working days because of a non autism related issue.  They've left me just to get on with it and plan myself which is fine because I know I need help with this but I feel there's an element of demand to it now. It's hard for me to establish a routine and very easy for it to unravel. Can anyone relate to it? 

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  • I relate to this.

    If the routine is lacking or broken for whatever reason I basically just stop, everything’s wrong, nothing makes sense and I’m just existing but unable to do anything because I guess I’m looking for the routine or waiting for it come back. I think that makes sense? I have tried watching something or reading when this happens... but it doesn’t work for me. I don’t think I can properly operate until everything’s back to normal. I’ve always been this way and it’s worse the older I get. LOL.

    I've found since I’ve been ill some days I can’t do my usual commitments and work, when that happens I’m basically existing but doing nothing. When the routine is gone or broken, I’m broken. No routine just muddles everything up for me. I finally managed to find a good routine at home and now that’s kind of here but not all the time. It’s very stressful.

  • in reply to KittyCandy

    Yes I think it's related to inertia but I could be wrong. I fostered some sort of morning routine over summer but now bsck in work it's all gone out the window. Looking at it objectively it's actually not a big deal but I feel there's lots of motivation required in me now to get it back up and running. It is more difficult when you have illnesses in the mixture as well.

    I think I put too much pressure on myself sometimes even when it's just me at home. But as an adult I feel its very indulgent to spend ones life flim flamming.

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  • in reply to KittyCandy

    Yes I think it's related to inertia but I could be wrong. I fostered some sort of morning routine over summer but now bsck in work it's all gone out the window. Looking at it objectively it's actually not a big deal but I feel there's lots of motivation required in me now to get it back up and running. It is more difficult when you have illnesses in the mixture as well.

    I think I put too much pressure on myself sometimes even when it's just me at home. But as an adult I feel its very indulgent to spend ones life flim flamming.

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  • in reply to Deleted User
    Unknown said:
    I think I put too much pressure on myself sometimes even when it's just me at home.

    We are our harshest judges unfortunately.

    It's good to be motivated though, but, try to not load so much on yourself. That's what I try to do now.