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Lack of daily routine

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Does anyone have difficulty with having a lack of routine? I'm ok when I'm in work or have commitments but otherwise I seem to flim flam around. I notice other people are able to productively relax (eg I'm going to sit and watch a film then I'm going to do a work out) whereas I feel I act more on a whim. I'm getting some help to establish a better routine outside of working days because of a non autism related issue.  They've left me just to get on with it and plan myself which is fine because I know I need help with this but I feel there's an element of demand to it now. It's hard for me to establish a routine and very easy for it to unravel. Can anyone relate to it? 

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  • I relate to this.

    If the routine is lacking or broken for whatever reason I basically just stop, everything’s wrong, nothing makes sense and I’m just existing but unable to do anything because I guess I’m looking for the routine or waiting for it come back. I think that makes sense? I have tried watching something or reading when this happens... but it doesn’t work for me. I don’t think I can properly operate until everything’s back to normal. I’ve always been this way and it’s worse the older I get. LOL.

    I've found since I’ve been ill some days I can’t do my usual commitments and work, when that happens I’m basically existing but doing nothing. When the routine is gone or broken, I’m broken. No routine just muddles everything up for me. I finally managed to find a good routine at home and now that’s kind of here but not all the time. It’s very stressful.

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  • I relate to this.

    If the routine is lacking or broken for whatever reason I basically just stop, everything’s wrong, nothing makes sense and I’m just existing but unable to do anything because I guess I’m looking for the routine or waiting for it come back. I think that makes sense? I have tried watching something or reading when this happens... but it doesn’t work for me. I don’t think I can properly operate until everything’s back to normal. I’ve always been this way and it’s worse the older I get. LOL.

    I've found since I’ve been ill some days I can’t do my usual commitments and work, when that happens I’m basically existing but doing nothing. When the routine is gone or broken, I’m broken. No routine just muddles everything up for me. I finally managed to find a good routine at home and now that’s kind of here but not all the time. It’s very stressful.

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  • in reply to KittyCandy

    Yes I think it's related to inertia but I could be wrong. I fostered some sort of morning routine over summer but now bsck in work it's all gone out the window. Looking at it objectively it's actually not a big deal but I feel there's lots of motivation required in me now to get it back up and running. It is more difficult when you have illnesses in the mixture as well.

    I think I put too much pressure on myself sometimes even when it's just me at home. But as an adult I feel its very indulgent to spend ones life flim flamming.