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I was wonder if anyone could help me understand, My ten year old hates surprises, he had a meltdown over not knowing the details of a walk, I said I might take them on (didn’t want to tell details incase, I couldnt manage to take them) 

This lead to major distress, can anyone here help me understand from his point of view? 

New here, and on this journey too.

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  • Essentially, autistic people are at a great disadvantage in a world that evolved to be comfortable, or at least bearable, for neurotypical people. Imagine the stress of being thrust onto a stage full of actors, with a vast audience watching, but you have not been given the script. You are still expected to interact with the other actors and try to divine what is expected of you. Pretty damn scary! This what it is like being autistic in everyday society. As a coping mechanism to all this stress and uncertainty we try to impose whatever regularity and predictability we can over events. Seen in this light, your son's problems with uncertainty and deviations from plans may make more sense to you.

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    Martin said:
    a stage full of actors, with a vast audience watching, but you have not been given the script. You are still expected to interact with the other actors and try to divine what is expected of you

    Yes, that is a good description of life! Sometimes I'm up for the challenge and others times it's just so daunting. And some scenarios you start to learn how the script goes so get a bit more comfortable, but still knowing that the script could suddenly change without warning.

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  • in reply to Martin
    Martin said:
    a stage full of actors, with a vast audience watching, but you have not been given the script. You are still expected to interact with the other actors and try to divine what is expected of you

    Yes, that is a good description of life! Sometimes I'm up for the challenge and others times it's just so daunting. And some scenarios you start to learn how the script goes so get a bit more comfortable, but still knowing that the script could suddenly change without warning.

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