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I was wonder if anyone could help me understand, My ten year old hates surprises, he had a meltdown over not knowing the details of a walk, I said I might take them on (didn’t want to tell details incase, I couldnt manage to take them) 

This lead to major distress, can anyone here help me understand from his point of view? 

New here, and on this journey too.

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  • He might have wanted to make sure he had the right kind of shoes etc. He might have wanted to know whether it would be something he would like or dislike, so whether to hope it happened or hope it didn't. It might sound obvious, but have you tried asking him?

    Uncertainty is know to be a stressor, most people only feel this if the thing unknown is particularly scary, like an operation, but we can find unusual things stressful, or can find everything stressful, so the more we know, even if not necessarily relevant or helpful, can help us feel less worried by it.

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  • He might have wanted to make sure he had the right kind of shoes etc. He might have wanted to know whether it would be something he would like or dislike, so whether to hope it happened or hope it didn't. It might sound obvious, but have you tried asking him?

    Uncertainty is know to be a stressor, most people only feel this if the thing unknown is particularly scary, like an operation, but we can find unusual things stressful, or can find everything stressful, so the more we know, even if not necessarily relevant or helpful, can help us feel less worried by it.

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