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matty6

Hello.  I'm trying to gather some info from my childhood regarding traits. 

I've had input from childhood friends and one of my primary school teachers but there's an obvious omittion...  My Mum.

I have a good idea of how this will go. 'Oh that was a long time ago, why would you want to think about that?'.

I know that when I was struggling with reading, writing, maths (a general not concentrating thing) when I switched to junior school, I had a special lady do some tests on me.

I don't know what they were for but.. idk.  I have this feeling that my Mum might have known something?

It's a lot more complicated but that's Mums for you :)

Any thoughts ?

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  • Matty - Sorry to sound too dark about it, but both of my parents are long dead so they are very useless at assisting my insight into the past.  Moreover, before they died, they were both a bit too old (in the mind) to cope with assisting with a formal diagnosis for me.

    My thoughts would be.......Your life is complicated enough at the moment without unnecessarily trying to probe into your mums memory about things she may not want to access (or can't remember clearly enough anyway perhaps.)  Although it is obviously very helpful to have input from your parents when trying to secure a diagnosis, parental input is not essential.   Personally, I would concentrate your efforts in other areas of gathering information and keep the relationship with your mum safe and sound.  Ask when you feel able and when you are confident it won't cause upset - but if you are shut-down, then leave it there.  Preserve yourself and your important relationships whilst you deal with the matter at hand, ie an ASD diagnosis.

    For the record, I still miss my parents a great deal.

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  • Matty - Sorry to sound too dark about it, but both of my parents are long dead so they are very useless at assisting my insight into the past.  Moreover, before they died, they were both a bit too old (in the mind) to cope with assisting with a formal diagnosis for me.

    My thoughts would be.......Your life is complicated enough at the moment without unnecessarily trying to probe into your mums memory about things she may not want to access (or can't remember clearly enough anyway perhaps.)  Although it is obviously very helpful to have input from your parents when trying to secure a diagnosis, parental input is not essential.   Personally, I would concentrate your efforts in other areas of gathering information and keep the relationship with your mum safe and sound.  Ask when you feel able and when you are confident it won't cause upset - but if you are shut-down, then leave it there.  Preserve yourself and your important relationships whilst you deal with the matter at hand, ie an ASD diagnosis.

    For the record, I still miss my parents a great deal.

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