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Difficulties with socialising

Pennie_Jane

I called the crisis line again last night as I feel so alone. I am trying to navigate life but not making or keeping friends. I feel pushed out or alienated from society everywhere I go. When I do make friends I feel pushed around and then accused like my neighbour has done and my daughter hasnt spoken to me for 3 weeks. I feel confused so often that I ask lots of questions plus feel uncomfortable. I just don't know how long I can keep going. I want to be invited and understood and people to like me and try to understand me. I just don't know what to do any more; it all feels too difficult now, especially at my age. I've been on assertiveness courses and groups but I feel such an easy target and my intentions very misunderstood. Disappointed This is not a normal way of feeling. Very upset again today. Disappointed

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  • Hi

    Unfortunately it is so for many of us, and we despair, I did so too. But I'm just to stubborn to give up, you could try it too. Though more acurate would be to say iron-willed. I get anxious, and sad, and depressed and ruminate over bad things, spending endless nights doing it. But at the same time I do not give up.

    It takes many years for many of us to make first friend, or find a partner, it's not uncommon to never happen, so one must prepare for such a future unfortunately. It's only logical. I met my first friend when I was 28y.o. I've got 3 now at 43y.o. and that's maksimum I can cope with. Friendship requires nurturing, and since they are neurotypical it's often going out to socialise.

    Pennie_Jane said:
    my intentions very misunderstood

    and it's so perplexing, and depressing. Recently I discovered why it happens. It's Double Empathy Problem https://youtu.be/y51w9j5eS50. Autistamatic made a video proposing a solution to that as well https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hEI2F66uIGI&list=PL3R_uyUBjsuBozC9uMrd8NLX1A5BgSyWE but we still need to find a way to pass it to allistic, because it requires both sides to cooperate

  • in reply to Mariusz

    Thank you so much for sharing this link.  It makes perfect sense and a loud YES! NTs need to start adjusting to us as much as we adjust to them. xx

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