Difficulties with socialising

You have an Amygdala issue. The. Amygdala controls how scared you are. Nothing to do with the cortex. If you are a scared mammal you run to the dark and shake. Meditation can teach you to find and feel your amygdala and over time learn to change the Amygdala state so you can stop biologically running to the darkness and learn to attach and feel love. Which obviously helps with social situations. Like having a bad smell the cortex is not important enough to be told about. And changing the Amygdala state. Changes how you smell. Which affects how other people react to your smell

This is not true. Nor is it practical sound advice.

Fear is a necessary part of our calculus. Let me give you an example: You're off for a walk in the woods and suddenly a bear drops from a tree. You feel fear and thankfully your freeze mode kicks in. This Healthy response helps the bear turn and walk away. Another: You're foraging mushrooms with a friend. You have a microscope and a pocket guide and Your Nose. You smell a frightful / repellant smell, the wrong smell, a smell you've learned to recognise as dangerous. You leave that mushroom and move on. And another: You meet someone nice. Over the next month they diminish you in small ways and make light of it. You try to ask them not to and they put you down for being too sensitive. They do things which make you feel uncomfortable and as though perhaps they're not worth trusting. This is the moment feeling hesitant or repelled or uncertain are worth listening to. These 'negative' responses are there For A Reason. So you don't end up compromised by humans who have little consideration for your well-being.

All Senses exist for a reason. Learning to use them and discipline and train them is one thing. All soldiers spend a good deal of time in boot camp learning to override their flight mode in the face of destruction. I'm not convinced this is always a good thing. Especially if we think about children stolen and brainwashed into armies.

A "scared" mammal usually has a good reason. Do not confuse a lack of understanding how to engage socially with the need to spend years in a psychoanalysts office. Some just need a manual on how to discern between a potential good friend and a useless investment. Do you know how to recognise which stocks to invest in? Matters of the heart are even more valuable than matters of money. Trust worthy people help us recognise we should afford others time to earn our trust if we'd like a relationship with them. Those who are reckless and unintentional don't get to earn my trust. 

Friendships are not forged overnight. They take years of investment. They take careful choosing. We are not required to be friends with anyone.

Most Autistics are dealing with a Lack of Insight. Practical how-to rules in engaging with others. But make no mistake, we are ALL misrepresented, misunderstood and that will impact our finances and livelihood. We ALL perceive and reason different and most have been overlooked and so not helped to reach potential. Sometimes the best thing one can do is find a Darkroom to properly Develop in. (this is an analogy to photography).

This is not true. Nor is it practical sound advice.

Fear is a necessary part of our calculus. Let me give you an example: You're off for a walk in the woods and suddenly a bear drops from a tree. You feel fear and thankfully your freeze mode kicks in. This Healthy response helps the bear turn and walk away. Another: You're foraging mushrooms with a friend. You have a microscope and a pocket guide and Your Nose. You smell a frightful / repellant smell, the wrong smell, a smell you've learned to recognise as dangerous. You leave that mushroom and move on. And another: You meet someone nice. Over the next month they diminish you in small ways and make light of it. You try to ask them not to and they put you down for being too sensitive. They do things which make you feel uncomfortable and as though perhaps they're not worth trusting. This is the moment feeling hesitant or repelled or uncertain are worth listening to. These 'negative' responses are there For A Reason. So you don't end up compromised by humans who have little consideration for your well-being.

All Senses exist for a reason. Learning to use them and discipline and train them is one thing. All soldiers spend a good deal of time in boot camp learning to override their flight mode in the face of destruction. I'm not convinced this is always a good thing. Especially if we think about children stolen and brainwashed into armies.

A "scared" mammal usually has a good reason. Do not confuse a lack of understanding how to engage socially with the need to spend years in a psychoanalysts office. Some just need a manual on how to discern between a potential good friend and a useless investment. Do you know how to recognise which stocks to invest in? Matters of the heart are even more valuable than matters of money. Trust worthy people help us recognise we should afford others time to earn our trust if we'd like a relationship with them. Those who are reckless and unintentional don't get to earn my trust. 

Friendships are not forged overnight. They take years of investment. They take careful choosing. We are not required to be friends with anyone.

Most Autistics are dealing with a Lack of Insight. Practical how-to rules in engaging with others. But make no mistake, we are ALL misrepresented, misunderstood and that will impact our finances and livelihood. We ALL perceive and reason different and most have been overlooked and so not helped to reach potential. Sometimes the best thing one can do is find a Darkroom to properly Develop in. (this is an analogy to photography).

I LOVE your reply and is packed full of helpful tips, so I will take it and use it, if I may?