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Difficulties with socialising

Pennie_Jane

I called the crisis line again last night as I feel so alone. I am trying to navigate life but not making or keeping friends. I feel pushed out or alienated from society everywhere I go. When I do make friends I feel pushed around and then accused like my neighbour has done and my daughter hasnt spoken to me for 3 weeks. I feel confused so often that I ask lots of questions plus feel uncomfortable. I just don't know how long I can keep going. I want to be invited and understood and people to like me and try to understand me. I just don't know what to do any more; it all feels too difficult now, especially at my age. I've been on assertiveness courses and groups but I feel such an easy target and my intentions very misunderstood. Disappointed This is not a normal way of feeling. Very upset again today. Disappointed

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  • Maybe a major problem with socializing is that the more we desperately need it, the less we are able to do it. So it is a loop. When we are desperate and have expectations, we are more prone to deceptions and tend to turn to anyone when it takes only empathetic people to get out of the loop. Do you have an activity you enjoy so that you will feel confident being around others while doing it? Please try not to be too hard on yourself. You have nice things to share with others and are entitled to chose whith who you share them: people who do not make you feel bad. They exist, it is only a matter of finding them. They can be anywhere but are most likely doing things you also enjoy doing. 

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  • Maybe a major problem with socializing is that the more we desperately need it, the less we are able to do it. So it is a loop. When we are desperate and have expectations, we are more prone to deceptions and tend to turn to anyone when it takes only empathetic people to get out of the loop. Do you have an activity you enjoy so that you will feel confident being around others while doing it? Please try not to be too hard on yourself. You have nice things to share with others and are entitled to chose whith who you share them: people who do not make you feel bad. They exist, it is only a matter of finding them. They can be anywhere but are most likely doing things you also enjoy doing. 

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  • in reply to Annie

    I enjoy art, I make things from polymer clay, but I've been unwell of late and cannot hold the clay like I used to.  I'm having to adapt to a new way of life while I wait for a Rheumatologist to figure out what is wrong with me, in the meantime, all I can do is study (to keep my mind occupied), watch YouTube or read forums like this...

    I have, however, just signed up to a social wellbeing club; but I am used to socialising with high achieving people in my role, but since I am off work, I no longer have that resource.  So, it's very frustrating at present and I feel very isolated - I need to find MY people.

    BW xx