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Broken family relationships

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My dad and most of his family emotionally neglected me, ignored me, controlled me to be a certain way and silenced me for speaking up and denied and rejected a lot of things about my health. When I told mDisappointed relievedy dad I'm waiting for an autism assessment he reacted badly, telling me it's all in my head and he wouldn't read the information I gave him. My brother didn't say much either he didn't know much about it and he's always been negative and insensitive towards Disappointed relievedme. I suspect other family members also have autistic traits. They made my health worse constantly triggering me and I realized I can't make them accept me or understand me so I ended up cutting ties or limiting contact with a lot of them. I feel like I've been emotionally/ psychologically abused by my own family and it hurts. I'm grieving that I never had a supportive loving family. I'm not sure if getting a diagnosis will change things or if my family will ever understand and accept me. I'm worried I'll be lonely for most of my life. I only have a few family members I feel comfortable around but they don't fully understand or believe I'm autisic. 

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  • I know it is tough to see because it hurts, but these are their own failings.brheir ignorance is the issue. I have same in my family.

    Given how you feel it is time to focus on yourself. I'm not sure how old you are from this post, but if you are self supporting and financially independent then you need to prioritise yourself.

    The one person who can support you and you can count on everyday is yourself. Make good choices with your best interests at heart, self care, meditate, eat well, and make your own life full of colour and light by doing and surrounding yourself with that which you love. Then when you feel good maybe then reach out and see if they want to be included into your world; rather than you needing to be part of there's?

    It is so hard i know, but you are worthy of your own care, and theirs too. But sometimes people have their own issuesthat we can fix, they gave to do this in their own as well.

    Families are often disfunctional, it's just a tough part of social dynamics

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  • I know it is tough to see because it hurts, but these are their own failings.brheir ignorance is the issue. I have same in my family.

    Given how you feel it is time to focus on yourself. I'm not sure how old you are from this post, but if you are self supporting and financially independent then you need to prioritise yourself.

    The one person who can support you and you can count on everyday is yourself. Make good choices with your best interests at heart, self care, meditate, eat well, and make your own life full of colour and light by doing and surrounding yourself with that which you love. Then when you feel good maybe then reach out and see if they want to be included into your world; rather than you needing to be part of there's?

    It is so hard i know, but you are worthy of your own care, and theirs too. But sometimes people have their own issuesthat we can fix, they gave to do this in their own as well.

    Families are often disfunctional, it's just a tough part of social dynamics

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