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Being Used

Ivy

I guess I'm not alone in this, sadly, but does anyone else get used by people who you thought were friends and nice who cared about you but were just using you for money or for fun?

I had these people, four girls who I've known for a few years and I thought we were friends. I don't really know how to make friends but they seemed nice straight away and they seemed to like me. Sadly I found out today they have just been using me. I like to buy gifts for them because they were so nice and today I was in the studio and I heard them outside, guess they didn't know I was there and they were saying horrible things about me and Jade said this exactly "if my friends found out I hung out with a retard I'd be finished" and they all laughed. Apparently I'm the retard. I'm a bit hurt and I feel a bit of an idiot. Should I have seen this before? I don't know. They've always been really nice to me. But I heard them saying all this and then they were saying at least I'm generous.

I don't understand friendship like how to tell who true friends are and how to see the bad ones.

I wish I knew others on the spectrum but sadly I don't. Why are people so mean?

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  • Hi Ivy, Im sorry to hear you've been through this. I have been through the same thing and I have to say once friends say stuff like that about you there is usually no way back. Sometimes its easier to just cut ties no matter how painful it is as trying to keep hanging around them is just gonna open you up to a lifetime of hurt. 
    I had a group of friends that treated me like that and I hung out with them many years after I should have stopped and opened myself up to needless hurt. When I had a credit card they were happy to let me pay for eveything, drinks, taxis, takeways etc but as soon as I was skint and needed them to help me they started calling me a scrounger and a freeloader and saying I was always trying to scam free stuff off them.

    You sound like a lovely person Ivy and trust me you deserve friends WAY better than these people. Value yourself, take some time to get to know yourself and love yourself and then, eventually, the right friends might come along. 
    But just respect yourself and know that people with these attitudes are the problem not you

    Sorry if I went on too long there!

  • in reply to Billy87

    I understand; completely.

    But once you hit a low, true friendships emerge.

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