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Loneliness being autistic at uni

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Sometimes it just really hits me how lonely it is being autistic. I'm going into my second year of uni with no friends. As well as the loneliness I feel like I'm missing out on that "uni culture". I know it's partly my fault because I commute, but I just feel so distant constantly in my whole life and now it's hitting me that I'm not gonna make any friends at uni either. I just feel so isolated. I just want some friends but it seems impossible when people have already established friend groups in first year and I always struggle to actually connect and feel accepted by people. I'm just ranting really because I feel upset that I don't think I'll ever have a proper friend group

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  • Hey 

    I feel the same and I live at uni going into 4th year . 
    We had to do a 6th month placement as part of the degree . I had 5 friends in uni one was my best friend something I have never really had before . 1 friend transfer near home she was my close friend after best friend . The other two my best friend didn’t really like for the first 3 years “not her kinda of people” . They all got placements close to each other me the other end of the country 3 hours away they did loads together never even asked if I wanted to do something for a weekend etc despite saying I would .  Since then my best friend isn’t replying to messages for day . I asked if she wanted to go to this welcome back event she said maybe will let you know . Now Two weeks later I dropped one other friend a message asking if she was doing any welcome back activities she said the three were doing out to the same event . I said oh I told BF I wanted to do that . They then said get a ticket and come . Went on line all tickets sold a week ago . 

    Within minutes BF opens the 3 day old message saying she off to that event and I should come . I said I couldn’t get a ticket all sold out . I have tried to make other plans with BF for various dates in the next 3 weeks she always busy . Then finished with we will see each other soon . I feel so left out and feel exactly like you . Dreading having to try make friends again I find it horrid I was supposed at having 5 uni friends Thought I would never get one . Now I feel like I am starting again with people who already have friendships groups 

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  • Hey 

    I feel the same and I live at uni going into 4th year . 
    We had to do a 6th month placement as part of the degree . I had 5 friends in uni one was my best friend something I have never really had before . 1 friend transfer near home she was my close friend after best friend . The other two my best friend didn’t really like for the first 3 years “not her kinda of people” . They all got placements close to each other me the other end of the country 3 hours away they did loads together never even asked if I wanted to do something for a weekend etc despite saying I would .  Since then my best friend isn’t replying to messages for day . I asked if she wanted to go to this welcome back event she said maybe will let you know . Now Two weeks later I dropped one other friend a message asking if she was doing any welcome back activities she said the three were doing out to the same event . I said oh I told BF I wanted to do that . They then said get a ticket and come . Went on line all tickets sold a week ago . 

    Within minutes BF opens the 3 day old message saying she off to that event and I should come . I said I couldn’t get a ticket all sold out . I have tried to make other plans with BF for various dates in the next 3 weeks she always busy . Then finished with we will see each other soon . I feel so left out and feel exactly like you . Dreading having to try make friends again I find it horrid I was supposed at having 5 uni friends Thought I would never get one . Now I feel like I am starting again with people who already have friendships groups 

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