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Loneliness being autistic at uni

SummerBerries

Sometimes it just really hits me how lonely it is being autistic. I'm going into my second year of uni with no friends. As well as the loneliness I feel like I'm missing out on that "uni culture". I know it's partly my fault because I commute, but I just feel so distant constantly in my whole life and now it's hitting me that I'm not gonna make any friends at uni either. I just feel so isolated. I just want some friends but it seems impossible when people have already established friend groups in first year and I always struggle to actually connect and feel accepted by people. I'm just ranting really because I feel upset that I don't think I'll ever have a proper friend group

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  • I struggle with the same thing. I try to appreciate being alone. because I know that no matter what happens, ill always have me. the person i’m most comfortable with, the person who’s the most reliable, the person who will always be there at the end of the day, is me. loneliness sucks. the inability to be comfortably outgoing and social sucks. but it only sucks because we’ve been conditioned to think it sucks. its okay to be alone. for about 15 years of my life I didn’t really have anyone, or at least anyone who was healthy for me. but then I made a big decision to change my environment and within just the first week I found my people. i still get exhausted if i’m with them for a long time, and that lingering discomfort is always there. i don’t see them a lot. but i know they’re still there if i want to see them, they respect my space and my need for alone time. and even if they weren’t there, id still have me. and that’s enough.

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  • I struggle with the same thing. I try to appreciate being alone. because I know that no matter what happens, ill always have me. the person i’m most comfortable with, the person who’s the most reliable, the person who will always be there at the end of the day, is me. loneliness sucks. the inability to be comfortably outgoing and social sucks. but it only sucks because we’ve been conditioned to think it sucks. its okay to be alone. for about 15 years of my life I didn’t really have anyone, or at least anyone who was healthy for me. but then I made a big decision to change my environment and within just the first week I found my people. i still get exhausted if i’m with them for a long time, and that lingering discomfort is always there. i don’t see them a lot. but i know they’re still there if i want to see them, they respect my space and my need for alone time. and even if they weren’t there, id still have me. and that’s enough.

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