Loneliness being autistic at uni

Hi- I did made some friends at uni (for first time ever) but I definitely did not experience "that uni culture" and I don't think it would have suited me. Can you join a club or society for one of your special interests so that you can meet some people with similar interests? Is there anyone on your course that you could connect with or that you sit with for lectures? Even if you are commuting you will have opportunities to meet people, I lived in university accomodation but when I think about it I made most of my friends either through my course so during/in between the lectures, practicals etc. or through attending scientific talks. I do think I was lucky that I came accross the right people that I could connect to. I also can't say I have ever been part of a 'proper friend group'- my friendships are more 1 to 1 as I find groups much more difficult. I also often observed those friend groups and wondered what it would be like to have one of those but for me it's probably not suited/realistic. I wouldn't give up just because friend groups have already formed. The people you are likely to connect with might also not yet be part of friend groups. I made friends throughout my degree including in my final year. And it always happened through a shared interest or trait, or even something as simple as always being late for lectures and seeing each other 5 min late in front of the lecture hall door. Sometimes it is the small things that are enough to connect you with someone. But I can understand the struggle- I think I was extremely lucky that at my university I met some likeminded people and that my course did have rather a lot of contact hours where I was likely to meet people with similar interests. You probably just haven't met the right people yet that are suited to being your friends - don't give up. 

Hi- I did made some friends at uni (for first time ever) but I definitely did not experience "that uni culture" and I don't think it would have suited me. Can you join a club or society for one of your special interests so that you can meet some people with similar interests? Is there anyone on your course that you could connect with or that you sit with for lectures? Even if you are commuting you will have opportunities to meet people, I lived in university accomodation but when I think about it I made most of my friends either through my course so during/in between the lectures, practicals etc. or through attending scientific talks. I do think I was lucky that I came accross the right people that I could connect to. I also can't say I have ever been part of a 'proper friend group'- my friendships are more 1 to 1 as I find groups much more difficult. I also often observed those friend groups and wondered what it would be like to have one of those but for me it's probably not suited/realistic. I wouldn't give up just because friend groups have already formed. The people you are likely to connect with might also not yet be part of friend groups. I made friends throughout my degree including in my final year. And it always happened through a shared interest or trait, or even something as simple as always being late for lectures and seeing each other 5 min late in front of the lecture hall door. Sometimes it is the small things that are enough to connect you with someone. But I can understand the struggle- I think I was extremely lucky that at my university I met some likeminded people and that my course did have rather a lot of contact hours where I was likely to meet people with similar interests. You probably just haven't met the right people yet that are suited to being your friends - don't give up.