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Feel so Isolated with my "close" friends

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It's so anoying, It's been like that ever since I got diagnosed with aspergers, just like today when I go and hang out with them, a friend of mine also has aspergers but he fits in with the other friend who I don't like!! And then my other close friend who has a girlfriend, always hanging around with her now watching some movies more than once cos they went without me the first place. The close friend who I used to hang out with all the time has probably forgot about me since he has a girlfriend, and we still go on saturdays but with his girlfriend who we all knew before they were in a relationship.

I just feel so isolated from the group, like we were discussing about what movie to see next Wednesday, then my other friend with aspergers as well saying that someone else would get the range Wednesday ticket if we go as well, and they are seeing another movie earlier on together as well with Orange Wednesday, fair enough I said and I also said I won't bother going on Wednesday then. Plus I don't like that other "friend" of mine anyway. I'm fed up with my group of so called "close" friends, I don't seem to fit in, and when I get confused about something like I think that other friend was saying something that I understood as a threat to me, even my other friend who is a aspie as well backs him up not even understanding things from my point of view.

I just want to me alone anyway, I want to socialise with others, make more close friends like normal people but I just can't. I only have this group of close friends but apparently it's starting to drift away because I don't think they care. I just need some people to actualy care and understand why I'm acting that way with them but noone seems to understand me.

I probably do feel isolated a lot now, and prefer spending time alone, I'm 22, got a job, I want to live a normal life like everyone round my age does but I can't, that's probably where all the anger comes from because I want to have nights out with friends, clubbing etc but I don't think I'm going to cope, I just need to be in my room to be safe and reduce the anxiety and the emotions.

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  • Hi Alex

    Thank you very much for your response. I have been to see my psychologist today and she said that I'm currently on the waiting list for someone to support ,e with my communication skills and my rituals.

    I think I mainly need support to be normal like others in terms of coping to go out and not feeling stressed and thinking that I could of been doing something better on my own than with others. I feel like communicating with my friends are also difficult now after I known I had aspergers because I feel annoyed easily when they say things like the other day, 2 of my friends were saying that I shouldn't of said what I said and that I was wrong but I said it for a reason because I thought it was a threat which was targetted at me yet they both were saying things to me teaming up on me, that's why I got really annoyed, stressed and depressed, the thing what made it worse was one of them who was saying things to me also has aspergers yet they don't understand what I explained to them!

    I just don't feel like I "fit in" with anyone because of the communication skills. I have difficulty in it but I speak ok when it's someone I know really well. I was that what made me feel isolated because now they go out without me, 2 of the friends go together to the cinema without me because they're in a relationship and the other 2 mates I'm just annoyed about, they go without me, we only all go out with eachother on Saturdays, So yeah, I'm the odd one out out of the whole group apparently.

    Although when I'm at work, I feel really happy and I'm not stressed there because I feel less lonely, and it has become part of my routine now to be there everyday so that's probably why.

    But thank you for offering the help, I really do want it depending on if the location is local and the costs because of my anxiety to go to new places that I don't know, I can't do that and plus the times I work, I won't have enough time to go to these support places unfortunatly, I find that I am very commited to work as well and it's really important to me because it's the first job I sucesfully got and I feel really happy I achieved it! But today my psychologist said I can discuss the times when I can attend these support sessions so it's ok. Hopefully it'll be after 5ish.

    It is just mainly I need someone to talk to to discuss how I feel and someone who listens and cares. Thank you for listening.

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  • Hi Alex

    Thank you very much for your response. I have been to see my psychologist today and she said that I'm currently on the waiting list for someone to support ,e with my communication skills and my rituals.

    I think I mainly need support to be normal like others in terms of coping to go out and not feeling stressed and thinking that I could of been doing something better on my own than with others. I feel like communicating with my friends are also difficult now after I known I had aspergers because I feel annoyed easily when they say things like the other day, 2 of my friends were saying that I shouldn't of said what I said and that I was wrong but I said it for a reason because I thought it was a threat which was targetted at me yet they both were saying things to me teaming up on me, that's why I got really annoyed, stressed and depressed, the thing what made it worse was one of them who was saying things to me also has aspergers yet they don't understand what I explained to them!

    I just don't feel like I "fit in" with anyone because of the communication skills. I have difficulty in it but I speak ok when it's someone I know really well. I was that what made me feel isolated because now they go out without me, 2 of the friends go together to the cinema without me because they're in a relationship and the other 2 mates I'm just annoyed about, they go without me, we only all go out with eachother on Saturdays, So yeah, I'm the odd one out out of the whole group apparently.

    Although when I'm at work, I feel really happy and I'm not stressed there because I feel less lonely, and it has become part of my routine now to be there everyday so that's probably why.

    But thank you for offering the help, I really do want it depending on if the location is local and the costs because of my anxiety to go to new places that I don't know, I can't do that and plus the times I work, I won't have enough time to go to these support places unfortunatly, I find that I am very commited to work as well and it's really important to me because it's the first job I sucesfully got and I feel really happy I achieved it! But today my psychologist said I can discuss the times when I can attend these support sessions so it's ok. Hopefully it'll be after 5ish.

    It is just mainly I need someone to talk to to discuss how I feel and someone who listens and cares. Thank you for listening.

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