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Feel so Isolated with my "close" friends

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It's so anoying, It's been like that ever since I got diagnosed with aspergers, just like today when I go and hang out with them, a friend of mine also has aspergers but he fits in with the other friend who I don't like!! And then my other close friend who has a girlfriend, always hanging around with her now watching some movies more than once cos they went without me the first place. The close friend who I used to hang out with all the time has probably forgot about me since he has a girlfriend, and we still go on saturdays but with his girlfriend who we all knew before they were in a relationship.

I just feel so isolated from the group, like we were discussing about what movie to see next Wednesday, then my other friend with aspergers as well saying that someone else would get the range Wednesday ticket if we go as well, and they are seeing another movie earlier on together as well with Orange Wednesday, fair enough I said and I also said I won't bother going on Wednesday then. Plus I don't like that other "friend" of mine anyway. I'm fed up with my group of so called "close" friends, I don't seem to fit in, and when I get confused about something like I think that other friend was saying something that I understood as a threat to me, even my other friend who is a aspie as well backs him up not even understanding things from my point of view.

I just want to me alone anyway, I want to socialise with others, make more close friends like normal people but I just can't. I only have this group of close friends but apparently it's starting to drift away because I don't think they care. I just need some people to actualy care and understand why I'm acting that way with them but noone seems to understand me.

I probably do feel isolated a lot now, and prefer spending time alone, I'm 22, got a job, I want to live a normal life like everyone round my age does but I can't, that's probably where all the anger comes from because I want to have nights out with friends, clubbing etc but I don't think I'm going to cope, I just need to be in my room to be safe and reduce the anxiety and the emotions.

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  • thank you longman and autismtwo for replying, I agree with you for me needing a mentor that does describe it what I do really want to be honest. The only problem is, yes, it's really difficult for me to have anyone like that because I don't get on well with most people in my family because I just find it really difficult to speak to them and I get confused or shy over conversations with relatives I haven't spoken to for a while.

    Today there was a family dinner, I just ate dinner with the family, not saying a single word like I usually do that anyway, then after I finished eating, I went back upstairs on my computer feeling bored as well , I went downstairs because I wanted to ask my Uncle something but he was talking to my Sister, I just feel I don't fit in with the family most of the time like they don't want to talk to me about what questions I wanted answered.

    I love my life with sucessfully getting the apprenticeship and all that, that's probably the only thing what made me happy and more confident in myself for quite a while now, but unlike my sister who is "normal" going to parties, fitting in with everyone else in the family very well, I can't and I find it more challenging which is prabably why it makes me feel stressed and depressed at times.

    There's a girl who's like only a few months older than me where I work and she's in a higher role than I am but I know it's probably because I have aspergers, I need things explained to me in the most clearest, simplest way possible otherwise I get confused, and the social side really does worry me in the workplace because I just don't know how to communicate with other people, like it's hard to explain, I can communicate but it gives me a lot of anxiety after I said something because I don't know what the other person thought of what I said, like I think, was that what I was meant to say, it sounded a bit rude? or was it ok?

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  • thank you longman and autismtwo for replying, I agree with you for me needing a mentor that does describe it what I do really want to be honest. The only problem is, yes, it's really difficult for me to have anyone like that because I don't get on well with most people in my family because I just find it really difficult to speak to them and I get confused or shy over conversations with relatives I haven't spoken to for a while.

    Today there was a family dinner, I just ate dinner with the family, not saying a single word like I usually do that anyway, then after I finished eating, I went back upstairs on my computer feeling bored as well , I went downstairs because I wanted to ask my Uncle something but he was talking to my Sister, I just feel I don't fit in with the family most of the time like they don't want to talk to me about what questions I wanted answered.

    I love my life with sucessfully getting the apprenticeship and all that, that's probably the only thing what made me happy and more confident in myself for quite a while now, but unlike my sister who is "normal" going to parties, fitting in with everyone else in the family very well, I can't and I find it more challenging which is prabably why it makes me feel stressed and depressed at times.

    There's a girl who's like only a few months older than me where I work and she's in a higher role than I am but I know it's probably because I have aspergers, I need things explained to me in the most clearest, simplest way possible otherwise I get confused, and the social side really does worry me in the workplace because I just don't know how to communicate with other people, like it's hard to explain, I can communicate but it gives me a lot of anxiety after I said something because I don't know what the other person thought of what I said, like I think, was that what I was meant to say, it sounded a bit rude? or was it ok?

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