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Feel so Isolated with my "close" friends

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It's so anoying, It's been like that ever since I got diagnosed with aspergers, just like today when I go and hang out with them, a friend of mine also has aspergers but he fits in with the other friend who I don't like!! And then my other close friend who has a girlfriend, always hanging around with her now watching some movies more than once cos they went without me the first place. The close friend who I used to hang out with all the time has probably forgot about me since he has a girlfriend, and we still go on saturdays but with his girlfriend who we all knew before they were in a relationship.

I just feel so isolated from the group, like we were discussing about what movie to see next Wednesday, then my other friend with aspergers as well saying that someone else would get the range Wednesday ticket if we go as well, and they are seeing another movie earlier on together as well with Orange Wednesday, fair enough I said and I also said I won't bother going on Wednesday then. Plus I don't like that other "friend" of mine anyway. I'm fed up with my group of so called "close" friends, I don't seem to fit in, and when I get confused about something like I think that other friend was saying something that I understood as a threat to me, even my other friend who is a aspie as well backs him up not even understanding things from my point of view.

I just want to me alone anyway, I want to socialise with others, make more close friends like normal people but I just can't. I only have this group of close friends but apparently it's starting to drift away because I don't think they care. I just need some people to actualy care and understand why I'm acting that way with them but noone seems to understand me.

I probably do feel isolated a lot now, and prefer spending time alone, I'm 22, got a job, I want to live a normal life like everyone round my age does but I can't, that's probably where all the anger comes from because I want to have nights out with friends, clubbing etc but I don't think I'm going to cope, I just need to be in my room to be safe and reduce the anxiety and the emotions.

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  • Things don't necessarily calm down for young people without a disability. For people on the spectrum it can be very difficult, especially if there are delays (as certainly seems to have applied to me -staggered early, mid and late twenties).

    What Hawk needs right now is a mentor. Someone to provide some support. It might be a sympathetic aunt or other relative. It might be someone a few years older who knows him. But I guess it is hard to find such allies with AS in the way.

    Hope it sorts out Hawk.  It will be tough for a bit, but everyone's youthfull circle of friends seems to go their own way, and you have to form new allegiances or go it alone.

    Have you ever seen the repeats of the series The Likely Lads, being all that's left as it were of a circle of friends, one marrying but not settling down, and one failing to marry and being the unwelcome third a lot of the time? I think the scriptwriters got very good insight there. The date may be thirty years in the past but the issues are still valid.

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  • Things don't necessarily calm down for young people without a disability. For people on the spectrum it can be very difficult, especially if there are delays (as certainly seems to have applied to me -staggered early, mid and late twenties).

    What Hawk needs right now is a mentor. Someone to provide some support. It might be a sympathetic aunt or other relative. It might be someone a few years older who knows him. But I guess it is hard to find such allies with AS in the way.

    Hope it sorts out Hawk.  It will be tough for a bit, but everyone's youthfull circle of friends seems to go their own way, and you have to form new allegiances or go it alone.

    Have you ever seen the repeats of the series The Likely Lads, being all that's left as it were of a circle of friends, one marrying but not settling down, and one failing to marry and being the unwelcome third a lot of the time? I think the scriptwriters got very good insight there. The date may be thirty years in the past but the issues are still valid.

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