Hi all- I hope some of you can provide insight. I heart broken and unsure of how to make sense of it all: I met a man earlier this year on holiday and we began dating. While on vacation the chemistry was so magnetic he treated me like his gf from night one and he shared so much with me- I felt special. But I noticed he wasn’t asking a lot of questions. On the second night he told me he’s not close to his mom because she’s a therapist and told him he’s autistic. He said it so passively and I didn’t want to dig because it was too early in the relationship. Flash forward back at home. We met up- After just an hour he suddenly said he’s not ready for a relationship and wants to just spend time together. I said we need to just get to know one another first. THEN he started talking about whether I can have children in 5 years because I’m 7 years older than him, as if I’m too old! (I’m only 29!) I explained that of course I’m still fertile! It’s like suddenly I felt like he was deciding if I’m the woman of his life NOW and the pressure was on. We then had a passionate night and I didn’t hear from him for a week. I texted him and he said he’s not ready because he was in a relationship from age 15 till last year and he needs to experience dating other girls and it’s not about me- that I’m amazing. Then I said I liked him so much. He replied “I like you too but it’s too early for me to settle down” I said again- no one is asking you to! I just want to try and see if we can have something because we like each other. But no matter what I said it’s like in his head we are either together and it’s for sure ending in marriage or it’s casual. No space for exploring the connection first. He was so cold with it while saying he cares about me simultaneously! Then I said I’ll give him space. Then a month later he told me he doesn’t want a woman in his life. I said so we will never see each other again. And he said “no I’m just saying I don’t want something serious right now!” The summer went by and I was still just so shocked. I texted him recently to say hi and he immediately replied he didn’t want to break my heart again and that he’s seeing someone and he’s not comfortable with us going out together “at the moment. Hope you understand it” But I also didn’t ask to meet. I’m just wondering though if anyone can help me. He seems so black and white and jumping to conclusions and never willing to compromise. A part of me feels he genuinely does care about me? I’m so confused.
