Dogma Surrounding Autism

As I’ve come across more people claiming autistic people are a problem it’s made me realise there’s a lot of dogmatic assumptions and beliefs about autism.

The main example is the assumption autism is a social problem because we don’t fit social norms and that social norms are inherently good. When we look to the past we can see “social norms” are actually inherently bad, social norms by their nature are discriminatory and are in direct violation of human rights such as autonomy. Less than a century ago treating women like they’re something less and have fewer rights than men was the social norm. In the 19th century slavery was part of the social norm. Each time we look at a social norm from any time period today’s people frown on it, it must of been someone with a “social problem” to want to deviate and change the social norm. I wonder if any of them were autistic!

Another example is the dogmatic assumption autistic people have a difficulty making friends. Autistic people do all that’s needed to be done to become friends, the reason things don’t work out is because the nonautistic people have a difficulty accepting people who don’t fit the standard norm. Nonautistic people are simply blaming their difficulties on autistic people, friendships are a two way street after all, not the autistic one is responsible for everything. 

I won’t list all the dogmatic assumptions that came to my mind but as one last example, the assumption autistic people have nothing good to offer society which is why they find the idea of a cure beneficial. I can believe that numerous of the greatest scientists throughout history were autistic because “autism traits” are the precise behaviours required to make new discoveries. Narrow interests, detail orientation, intensely focused, can detach themselves from people and spend more time on their work, better at recognising systems and patterns. I would say all these autism traits are of high value if the autistic person is given the opportunity to use them, and that they should be on the “Human Ability Spectrum” instead of defined as “deficits”.

I see a lot of dogma surrounding autism and hypocrisy by people failing to evaluate today’s social norms that people fail to recognise they have the very same difficulties.

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  • Social norms are not all bad. Lots of them, eg not smoking, wearing a seat belt etc are very good, and while they started with legislation they were only powerful because they became the social norm and were generally accepted. 

    I strongly disagree that autistic people can't make friends because all non-autistic people are not accepting of differences. There are tonnes of Facebook groups which build up this idea of us vs them and autistic people can't succeed because the whole world is against us. That simply isn't true, a diagnosis of autism doesn't automatically make you friendless and a hermit hiding away from the world. It means its harder to find your place, absolutely. But it doesn't mean anyone should give up or blame neurotypical people or the neurotypical world for everything either. At the very least, there is absolutely zero benefit in this attitude if you are autistic, unless you WANT to be that angry hermit. 

    The presentation of people with ASD in the media is an interesting one - have you watched The Good Doctor? I think there is an over representation of men with amazing abilities as autistic - there was a Bruce Willis film in the 1990s or so with a kid that was being chased by bad guys as he could do super advanced maths and broke all the secret passwords or something. Autism doesn't always mean male with incredible maths or science ability. However you could easily say they same about any other disability, so I don't think autism is being singled out in lack of representation, I think its a general problem about how few people with disabilities are on TV. But I do think its getting better slowly - say now compared to 20 years ago the difference is huge. 

  • I agree with a lot of what you say and I think there needs to be an element of "meeting in the middle" from both sides. I have really good friends and colleagues, some classed as neurodivergent altho not necessarily autistic, and some who are probably more neurotypical. They're all really nice accepting people who have known me since before any diagnosis. 

    I think it depends on your experiences of life. I should imagine if you have felt rejected at many stages of your life with no friendships or job it would make someone very angry indeed. I wonder how much the wording of official literature influences perception. "Deficits in social communication". This would make anyone feel worthless  and also reinforces the notion from a neurotypical point of view that there's "something wrong with you". This is why I think there needs to be a shift and we are talking more now about the double empathy problem instead.

    Anyway, we need more stuff from melanie sykes.

  • I have been rejected most of my life, made fun of and discriminated against for being different. I'm not angry anymore though, Im glad in a way because I dont want to be the same as everyone else and ive finally got to a point in my life where I like who I am.

    The only thing i dont like is the effect my breakdowns have on my loved ones, i feel terribly guilty for putting them through stress

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