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ASD is a fact that explains things about me, not an excuse that forgives the chaos that can emanate from me.

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I'm trying to unpick my thoughts on this matter.  Where should the line be drawn?

There is no ASD in me.  I am ASD but I am also my own unique human being.

My brain perceives and processes the world differently.  So what?

I am who I am.  I have a responsibility not to cause unnecessary pain and anguish to others - but I do.  I never mean to.

I want to be, and I try to be, a good human.  I often fail due to ASD traits and/or my own innate self.

"Be kind to yourself, its not your fault" -v- "For God's sake, sort your ASD-self out."

I find myself in the Temple Grandin camp of philosophy.

What are your opinions on this conundrum?

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  • Unknown said:
    I have a responsibility not to cause unnecessary pain and anguish to others - but I do.  I never mean to.

    I honestly think this is a fact of life.  We ALL cause pain or suffering, in one way or another, and we are ALL on the receiving end at times, inevitably and this will happen irrespective of neurology.  Yes, I may well have caused pain due to what might be described as my "ASD traits" but then again much of this could also be attributed to the general lack of understanding and acceptance I've received out there in the world.  And others have certainly caused me pain by remaining quite fixedly and unconsciously neurotypical plus, given that they're in the majority, I may well be left feeling more hurt and more marginalised as a result.  

    I do agree that we have a responsibility to try to avoid inflicting unnecessary pain, but life is messy and the consequences of any actions can have long and unforseen consequences of which we might never be aware.  Can we ever draw a line?  We'd have to have a proper map of the terrain first and that, of course, can look very different from each person's perspective.  Moreover we'd have to drill down in to specific examples.  

    Maybe, knowing that just living can cause pain to ourselves and others, we can just seek to cause the least harm possible?  

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  • Unknown said:
    I have a responsibility not to cause unnecessary pain and anguish to others - but I do.  I never mean to.

    I honestly think this is a fact of life.  We ALL cause pain or suffering, in one way or another, and we are ALL on the receiving end at times, inevitably and this will happen irrespective of neurology.  Yes, I may well have caused pain due to what might be described as my "ASD traits" but then again much of this could also be attributed to the general lack of understanding and acceptance I've received out there in the world.  And others have certainly caused me pain by remaining quite fixedly and unconsciously neurotypical plus, given that they're in the majority, I may well be left feeling more hurt and more marginalised as a result.  

    I do agree that we have a responsibility to try to avoid inflicting unnecessary pain, but life is messy and the consequences of any actions can have long and unforseen consequences of which we might never be aware.  Can we ever draw a line?  We'd have to have a proper map of the terrain first and that, of course, can look very different from each person's perspective.  Moreover we'd have to drill down in to specific examples.  

    Maybe, knowing that just living can cause pain to ourselves and others, we can just seek to cause the least harm possible?  

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