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Struggle to find social connections as an Autistic Adult

yjzhou

Hi all,

 So last month, on the last Thursday of the month, I tried to attend a social event hosted by NAS (or at the very least promoted by NAS on their website: https://www.autism.org.uk/directory/n/nassocial-goup-croydon). But unfortunately I couldn't find the people who were meant to be there. Additionally, the phone number, email etc. didn't work. I had to contact a lot of people to try and find out more information about the group (i.e. NAS staff unrelated to the event) and even then I couldn't find much information.

 But what is strange to me is that the event was held at a pub? And a very busy one at that. It was very uncomfortable for me with so many people and loud noises. However, I still tried to stay and find the group for about an hour. I asked the bartender if she knew about the group, but she didn't know anything about it. All in all, it was an extremely stressful situation. I think it would have been worth it if I found the social group, but I didn't end up finding anyone. Is the group still active? Does anyone have any information about this group?

 Why is it so hard to find autistic social groups for adults? I have tried for a very long time to find social groups - but most that I ended up finding was ones for children/young adults (<18 - I am 22) or autistic care homes.

 I really really want some friends in real life. Especially someone who is autistic like me. Do you guys have any tips or know of any groups in the Croydon/London area?

yjzhou

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  • I wouldn't like to meet in a pub as well

    one member that I know off  on this forum is from London 

    but he's a bit down lately, so thread lightly

  • in reply to Mariusz

    yeah, not been posting much but getting back to where i was before.

    but yeah, pubs a terriblle idea for an nas event, i know there's not exactly an abundance of venues for anything anymore and pubs have filled the gap for years.

    but,yeah, not only building tye "balls" to even go to a pub entrance, let alone the experience once entered, especially for non-drinkers, is awful, and especially for drinkers, it can make old habits return just to deal with it all.

    but then, whats the alternative? 

    also, im  north east london, so other side of city from you, well now croydons ondon, but yeah, feel freev to message if ya want, saw wh,40,k as one of your interests, never played tabletop, but love the universe 

  • in reply to deadsponge
    deadsponge said:
    never played tabletop

    It's hard to imagine, I spent my teenage years doing it every weekend

    but

    WH10K Battle is a simplified version of Warhammer Fantasy Battle, after you remove tactics and replace it with more dices, so instead on your brain you have to relay on your luck, it's my opinion, 

    anyway rules are extensive, and if you're unwilling to get your butt kicked many times at first it isn't for you,  doing only ''Charge'', ''March'' or ''Shoot'' always loses in Fantasy Battle, but not everyone realises there is ''Move'' or ''Turn around'', and many other actions as well Stuck out tongue, in 40K there is only march or shoot left, of course once you're in melee you always fight, unless you want to run Stuck out tongue

    from this year they've stopped supporting Warhammer Fantasy Battle, so I plan to buy lots of models once they get cheaper, you can still play even if it's out of date Smiley

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  • in reply to deadsponge
    deadsponge said:
    never played tabletop

    It's hard to imagine, I spent my teenage years doing it every weekend

    but

    WH10K Battle is a simplified version of Warhammer Fantasy Battle, after you remove tactics and replace it with more dices, so instead on your brain you have to relay on your luck, it's my opinion, 

    anyway rules are extensive, and if you're unwilling to get your butt kicked many times at first it isn't for you,  doing only ''Charge'', ''March'' or ''Shoot'' always loses in Fantasy Battle, but not everyone realises there is ''Move'' or ''Turn around'', and many other actions as well Stuck out tongue, in 40K there is only march or shoot left, of course once you're in melee you always fight, unless you want to run Stuck out tongue

    from this year they've stopped supporting Warhammer Fantasy Battle, so I plan to buy lots of models once they get cheaper, you can still play even if it's out of date Smiley

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