Advice for diagnosis

I have recently been volunteering this summer for a play scheme for special needs. One of the ladies there has a lot of experience with autism and she can see the characteristics in me. My family, friends, partner and Myself have thought I am autistic for a while now but my doctor told me that I get through life fine so I don’t need a diagnosis. However, I feel that I am struggling with life more than ever because I am struggling to understand who I am and why I do/feel the way I do. I find social situations hard, struggle with social interaction which makes work hard as I feel very isolated, I struggle to regulate my emotions and often have meltdowns and cause arguements because I feel so overwhelmed. I find it hard to maintain healthy relationships with friends, family and partner. I try to be as ‘normal’ as I can so I am accepted in society but after social interaction I am drained mentally and physically from trying to act socially acceptable. Is it worth me fighting for a diagnosis as I am looking to go to university and would like to try to understand myself as much as possible 

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  • Volunteering for anything is a super smart move - for any person - of any age - for any motive / reason. 

    You are already having your eyes opened - imagine how many more perspectives you will have gathered in another few years!

    You are also wise to start questioning yourself and your motives early - but let that be a slow burner.

    Just putting yourself out into the world and seeing what happens / evolves is a great plan for you now -surely?  Follow your current dream, even if it subsequently proves to have been a folly.  You have time.  You have space.  That's all you need right now?!

    Don't let others (who self-evidently can't know your true-self any better than you right now) try to explain the complications of your own life to you - it probably hasn't evolved enough for you (nor anyone else) to know just yet anyway -  and you don't want to get clinicalized prematurely?

    Pay attention to yourself.  Listen and process - but know that you have years to unravel this calmly.  Just keep plugging away softly and gently.  Sounds like you are already on the right track and that you just need to remain calm, patient and self-aware.

    Good luck, wise soul.

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  • Volunteering for anything is a super smart move - for any person - of any age - for any motive / reason. 

    You are already having your eyes opened - imagine how many more perspectives you will have gathered in another few years!

    You are also wise to start questioning yourself and your motives early - but let that be a slow burner.

    Just putting yourself out into the world and seeing what happens / evolves is a great plan for you now -surely?  Follow your current dream, even if it subsequently proves to have been a folly.  You have time.  You have space.  That's all you need right now?!

    Don't let others (who self-evidently can't know your true-self any better than you right now) try to explain the complications of your own life to you - it probably hasn't evolved enough for you (nor anyone else) to know just yet anyway -  and you don't want to get clinicalized prematurely?

    Pay attention to yourself.  Listen and process - but know that you have years to unravel this calmly.  Just keep plugging away softly and gently.  Sounds like you are already on the right track and that you just need to remain calm, patient and self-aware.

    Good luck, wise soul.

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