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Masking

Abbie

Hiya Everyone,

I hope you are all well and looing after yourselves? 

I received a diagnosis of Asperger's relatively recently as an adult female. I am slowly beginning to identify my needs, triggers, and what helps me to self soothe. 

I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to navigate the early stages of understanding the impacts this has on your life? I am trying to learn about where I might be masking or using unhelpful coping mechanisms to deal with my emotions, thoughts, and distress. 

Does anyone have any suggestions of helpful resources to assist me with my journey of self discovery?

Thank you!!!!

Abbie 

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  • I’ve suggested a few times that The Artists Way is a good read. It's a book that can help us identify safety issues, start learning about boundaries and protecting our authentic selves. 

    The only way I've found to move more fluidly in life is through integrity or, an integration of my core values with my actions and psyche (hopefully my words then match, or at least I know what I meant, but I can get those muddled up.) This has taken time, education and solitude. But I think the key here was to first create sensory-safe surroundings while learning to assert/respect boundaries vs identifying abuse. 

    I’ve spent a good deal of time also learning practical Rules of social exchange. Theatre classes, School of Life books, Caitlin Moran’s life advice or even Simon Griffin’s “Fvk-ing Good Manners” - they all have some merit - practical tips and bits of wisdom to operate in society. I’ve found that not everything applies. If it doesn’t, I just throw it out. From personality tests to most of pop psychology, a LOT of advice is created for NeuroTypical thinking / motives / psychology. 

    But, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being responsible, affording dignity, assuming kindness and sometimes engaging in a bit of self-restraint. These aren’t really masking, just growing character, the art of being human:)

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  • I’ve suggested a few times that The Artists Way is a good read. It's a book that can help us identify safety issues, start learning about boundaries and protecting our authentic selves. 

    The only way I've found to move more fluidly in life is through integrity or, an integration of my core values with my actions and psyche (hopefully my words then match, or at least I know what I meant, but I can get those muddled up.) This has taken time, education and solitude. But I think the key here was to first create sensory-safe surroundings while learning to assert/respect boundaries vs identifying abuse. 

    I’ve spent a good deal of time also learning practical Rules of social exchange. Theatre classes, School of Life books, Caitlin Moran’s life advice or even Simon Griffin’s “Fvk-ing Good Manners” - they all have some merit - practical tips and bits of wisdom to operate in society. I’ve found that not everything applies. If it doesn’t, I just throw it out. From personality tests to most of pop psychology, a LOT of advice is created for NeuroTypical thinking / motives / psychology. 

    But, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being responsible, affording dignity, assuming kindness and sometimes engaging in a bit of self-restraint. These aren’t really masking, just growing character, the art of being human:)

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