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Rudeness

HollyTheWally

I just come back from a walk and I'm feeling a bit down. As it's a nice day I decided a nice walk through the country would be nice, which it was until I saw this woman. Seeing her was fine but I felt myself getting anxious as she came over to me and I had a feeling she would talk to me which I'm not very good at. She did talk to me and asked where this village was which I knew and she asked for directions.

I'm not sure how you guys respond when this happens but my whole body tenses up, my throat gets tight, my stomach knots and I can't say a thing. I try to, I want to but my brain freezes and nothing happens. This woman looked at me sharply and then she sighed and told me I was rude and she walked off shaking her head at me and saying about my rudeness.

If only she knew the massive battle I was having with myself at the time and how much I really did want to answer her question.

Once again autism and anxiety won and made me look like a horrible person.

Feeling very down and disappointed now.

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  • I’m sorry that you experienced this. Unfortunately people can be rude in moments like you described, but try to take comfort in knowing that you wouldn’t treat someone like that. That person hopefully didn’t mean to react like that and hopefully will reflect on their impatience. But if not, and they are just that way inclined, they have to live a life of treating others like that and being treated that way in turn. The only people we are responsible for is ourselves, everyone else is responsible for themselves. So try not to put pressure on yourself to change in response to her rudeness, if anything it should be her attitude that changes. If she was in a position of needing assistance, she shouldn’t be so quick to jump to insults etc. A lack of preparation on her part does not constitute an emergency on yours. Keep putting manners, understanding and positivity out there, we need more of it!

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  • I’m sorry that you experienced this. Unfortunately people can be rude in moments like you described, but try to take comfort in knowing that you wouldn’t treat someone like that. That person hopefully didn’t mean to react like that and hopefully will reflect on their impatience. But if not, and they are just that way inclined, they have to live a life of treating others like that and being treated that way in turn. The only people we are responsible for is ourselves, everyone else is responsible for themselves. So try not to put pressure on yourself to change in response to her rudeness, if anything it should be her attitude that changes. If she was in a position of needing assistance, she shouldn’t be so quick to jump to insults etc. A lack of preparation on her part does not constitute an emergency on yours. Keep putting manners, understanding and positivity out there, we need more of it!

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