Nobody asks me to hang out even after I have invited them out many times

I've been having this problem for the past few years. I had a friend who I asked to hang out with him 8 times and I asked him to return the favour, maybe just a few times but he wouldn't. The relationship I was in, I asked that guy repeatedly out for 8 months every week without fail. Yet, when I asked for the favour to be returned, it never happened. I ended up dumping him. Now, with a friend, I've had for 14 years, I thought if she'd set it in her calendar to ask me to hang out every second month then I'd get invites. But obviously, she didn't even do it. I feel like people are so selfish. I act normal, I don't have one-way conversations and I'm likeable (as told by my friends). But no one wants to put the effort into inviting me out. At this point, I feel like there's no point in going out. I get anxiety after a while if the people who I've asked don't return the favour. I'd rather protect my mental health.

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  • I get this and I'm sorry because I know what people are like. To them it's just words but for some with autism it's a promise, a commitment and these things should be held up but very rarely are which is frustrating and annoying.

    I get this at school. Talk to a teacher and she'll say we'll look through the books during lunch, see you at 12. 12 comes and I'm there but she isn't. Ten past still no sign. Lunch ends and she comes back in, doesn't even acknowledge that I was here waiting. :/

    I wish when people say they'll do something they actually do it. If I say I'm doing something and I'll be there at a specific time I never backtrack or forget.

  • Exactly! If I won't want to do something, I will actually say I don't want to. While other people with their social niceties will just say yes and don't mean that.

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